On way to DB Victory?

[Thornton]

If she's with OM, there's really nothing you can do but try to move on and hope that she wakes up before you lose your feelings for her.

You literally cannot work on your R if OM is in the picture.

[sellout]

So in your opinion did I make the right move on my comments to her about not texting me about stuff other than coordination issues?

[resolut]

Hi Sellout, in one of the newbie readings I believe it says to never give away any DB or LRT tactics. They're for you only. That seems to be what you're asking about? In my situation my W can care less about how I am processing things.

Also, be careful about what you interpret. I have not fully learned this yet but interpret nothing of your WS words and only some of their actions. This is what I'm currently stuck on.

I think you did the right thing with the Mothers Day gift. Similar to the approach I took. My W even told me not to acknowledge it.

[Thornton]

I think you did the right thing, Sellout. You have to let her go before she will ever consider coming back.

[sellout]

Thanks all. Makes me feel better about my choice. Ultimately, I figured, she isn't going to miss me if I am always there for her stories, jokes, needs etc. Her not mentioning the divorce is another animal all together.

[LITB]

sellout...you made the right choice. That is one of the boundaries that I have been recommending to you for a long time. I know it isn't easy, but it is something that needed to happen in order for you to make progress.

Now, you have to remain consistent.

[sellout]

Thanks LITB. I can honestly say that is was very difficult. However, even based on her initial response of saying "I'm Sorry" feels like that she may even be questioning the whole thing. She has made ZERO progress on divorce, plans, preparation, packing to move, etc... She is either in denial or doesn't want a divorce. Crazy times.

[LH19]

Sellout,

You did the right thing and you need to stick to your word. If you go back on your word she will continue to cake eat through the summer. Let the D process play out and if she wants to stop it she will let you know.

IMO you need to call your lawyer and get 50% custody of your son.

[sellout]

That is my plan. I am sticking to my guns (not being rude or mean) and let it play out.

[MoveFrwd]

I'd say the concept is good but the execution is meh. Next time I think you should use your actions and not your words to convey your beliefs. Just stop conversing with her on those other topics rather than make a grand statement about it, you know?

But it's a good step. Now stick to it.