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[Thornton]

Hi Ginger - ExW and I split time with D17. D17 is in school and also working so she's been extremely busy. She's also in the stage where all she wants to do is hang out with her friends so I don't get to spend much 1 on 1 time with her.

[Thornton]

Really struggling today...

My mom texted me and told me that W had given her notice at work. It's official, she's really leaving for good this time.

[EastTN]

I'm so sorry, man. I wish there was something I could do or say to help.

[MoveFrwd]

Sorry bud.
What does "for good" really mean though? All you can really say is that she is going to leave. You know you can't predict or control what the future holds!

[leahsue]

That bites, Thornton. So sorry.

[Matrix]

Thornton,

Posted by you on 5/12/14:

"Regarding tonight, I feel panicked that this all final. She's made up her mind, received validation from her family, and she's not going to look back. I realize this is just fear, but it's so consuming".

She came back twice before. I'm saying that she will come back again, but just remember you have felt like this in the past and you were wrong. Just relax and calm down. Nothing is final until it is final. Hang in there man.

[Thornton]

Yeah, I'm trying to come to grips with it.

Stupid me, I was holding on to some sliver of hope that things would magically work out somehow.

My heart and my mind are at war right now. My heart is the eternal optomist (love conquers all). My mind tells me the opposite (Thornton! Run from this woman!).

[Matrix]

Correction:

I meant to say:

"I'm not saying that she will come back again..."

[Thornton]

Matrix - thanks for putting things in perspective.

Last night I was at the gym and I got a text from a friend that lives in another state. He asked me if W and I were still together and if I was moving back to my home state.

I told him that we split about a month ago and that W was moving. I asked how he knew. He told me W (he's friends with W on Facebook) had posted on her page:

"It's official, D and I will be moving back to "hometown" at the end of the month. I'm excited, scared, sad, to be taking this next step in my life"

I dont know why that bothers me so much. It feels like she is recruiting people to symphasize with her and root her on. We have all the same friends from our hometown and I feel like she is going to go on a schmear campaign.

I know that I need to let this go as I know the truth and no one can take that from me. I guess it just hurts to see her turn against me like this and throw me under the bus to anyone who will listen, including all our old friends.

I love her and hate her at the same time. I just want to let go and learn to be happy on my own.

[Bdog37]

"It's official, D and I will be moving back to "hometown" at the end of the month. I'm excited, scared, sad, to be taking this next step in my life"

Sorry to hear man, but it isn't over until you choose that its over.

I love her and hate her at the same time. I just want to let go and learn to be happy on my own.

I remember saying the same thing about the love/hate I had for my STBEW. The best thing for me was to completely detach and it wasn't until then that I was finally "happy on my own". Just remember that detaching isn't giving up on your M. You can love your W from a distance and still work on DB'ing your M.

Hang in there