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She had deleted the contact


You realize that means nothing, right? Mine did the same thing.

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but there seem to be residual emails in her inbox on some group emails on multiple devises. I spent time going through and deleting the rest as best as I could


So let me get this straight, you are deleting her emails from her accounts? That's very controlling even if she said OK. Wow.


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but there seem to be residual emails in her inbox on some group emails on multiple devises. I spent time going through and deleting the rest as best as I could


So let me get this straight, you are deleting her emails from her accounts? That's very controlling even if she said OK. Wow.


This struck me as odd as well. I get it that she needs to rebuild trust. An I get that she needs to go no contact with OM.

But theres only so far you can go. Im sure she KNOWS his email address - so what use is there in deleting old group emails?

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FindAir,

If my XW ever tries to claw her way back, I have a much better approach. I'm going to ask her to bring the OM's head to me on a platter. NC problem solved.

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^ I like that approach.


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I definitely know it means nothing. Just trying to establish my boundaries. W called that MF so many times it's embedded in her brain.


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Me deleting is so controlling. I'm usually not a micro manager, but she was playing stupid. She did make an effort to delete but there was some residual and she never cleans out her inbox. Old stuff from years back all "group" emails with her and OM on them. It was all within a good conversation though and I just did it.


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Originally Posted By: FindAir
Me deleting is so controlling. I'm usually not a micro manager, but she was playing stupid. She did make an effort to delete but there was some residual and she never cleans out her inbox. Old stuff from years back all "group" emails with her and OM on them. It was all within a good conversation though and I just did it.


Still, that isn't your place. At all.


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doodler,

I'm sorry to say that I'm sharpening my sword as we speak, I just need the platter!


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Jeep74,

Got it, your right and I wont do it again.


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doodler,

I'm sorry to say that I'm sharpening my sword as we speak, I just need the platter!


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