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Re: Jack 3 Beans [Re: HTM] #2713899
11/02/16 01:54 PM
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I've been away for more than a few weeks and just heard.

I remember reading some of Jack_Three_Beans posts and thinking, this was a person with wisdom and going to look for more.

I am sorry to hear one the good guys has gone. You will be missed Jeff.


M: 57 / EW: 52
T: 21, M: 8
S: 18, S: 15
Bomb: 1 Jun 14
EA Aug 2014 I think
PA Feb 2015 possibly sooner
Re: Jack 3 Beans [Re: Old Dog] #2714255
11/04/16 11:02 AM
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I remember Jack’s appearance on the boards. He arrived around the end of January 2006—and Bworl, he was always Jack_Three_Beans. There are some people that make an impression as someone who already knows where they are going and what to say. Jack was a board leader from almost the first moment. Even when his words may not have seemed so different than others, there was still some unknown quality of leadership and perhaps a charisma. I felt it right away from him and I also always had a sense his marriage would make it.
We did not interact a lot because I think neither of us really needed the other, but I followed his posts and respected him.
There have only been a handful of people that have that immediate quality that lets me know this person is going to lead this place—maybe it’s something about people with the name Jeff.
My posts tend toward the long…to the point of going over post limits even— and formal, whereas Jack could bring across his point with a witty one-liner. I’ve never figured out how to do that. To me one of the funniest was when someone asked if anyone had noticed if female MLCers showed an increase in masturbation.
Jack’s response: 10 Foot Pole.
I think he followed that post with something more, but I almost fell off my chair from laughing at his simple response that succinctly stated how we were all probably feeling.

He approached Standing with dignity, grace, humour and acceptance. I think he knew that his marriage would make it—we both hated odds and said we would be the exception—because we weren’t going to let those odds affect our morale.

To Jeff’s family, my condolences. Please know that your son, father, husband… was a wonderful and great man of convictions. He helped many people through betrayal and lead them to look at themselves and become great.

HUGS and Blessings,
Rollercoasterider


Standing isn't still.
Re: Jack 3 Beans [Re: 1000ships] #2715469
11/11/16 10:30 AM
11/11/16 10:30 AM
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I have been away for awhile. I came here today thinking of Jack/Jeff for some reason. I was thinking about Life being Plan B.

He was my DB Bootcamp mentor. He gave me advice and pushed me hard to go deeper. He gave me light in my darkest days when my H was pushing hard for the D. I still remember and use his words and advice today .

I never knew him IRL, however I imagined him to be larger than life, someone you WANT to know and be around.

His time with me on this board was essential in the continuing development of the person I am today, and I am still not done. His generosity, patience and time was key to where my family is now. And as usual, he was right. Piecing is even harder. I remember him saying that and it keeps me going.

To Jeff's family, my sincere condolences to a man that touched and help save a woman, and eventually a family, half way across the world. May he rest in peace.


TPS
Me: 44 H: 42
M14 T17
S10 D7
10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month
21/04/12 H is 'DONE'
04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010)
July '14 H ends affair
May '15 H moves back home
Jack 3 Beans, RIP #2735606
03/22/17 06:42 PM
03/22/17 06:42 PM
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I'm sorry to say that Jack3Beans (Jeff) died last fall.

He struggled with some health problems, but went on a trip in September. While on the vacation he got sick with an infection that weakened his system. He fought it hard, but then succumbed.

Jack (Jeff) was a dear friend in real life and here. He truly touched my life, and the lives of many many others.

Jeff was a loving father, a patient, witty friend, and an incredibly earnest, honest husband. He gave so much to people here.

I'm deeply grateful to have known him, and he will be missed.

RIP Jeff.


M: 57 H: 60
M: 35 yrs
S30,D28,D19
H off to Alaska 2006
Recon 7/07- 8/08
*2016*
X = "ALASKA 2.0"
GROUND HOG DAY
I File D 10/16
OW
DIV 2/26/2018
X marries OW 5/2016

= CLOSURE 4 ME
Embrace the Change
Re: Jack 3 Beans [Re: bustingout] #2735628
03/22/17 10:03 PM
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Just re-posting here, mostly for 25 and still missing J3B.
So glad I got to meet him and spend some time with him.

He is still sorely missed!


Me-66, D33,S32
Re: Jack 3 Beans [Re: Cadet] #2735635
03/23/17 03:17 AM
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yes his wisdom is greatly missed. i'm sorry for your loss Cadet. I never got a chance to really get to know him beyond his postings here. xoxoxo


M 20+ T25+
S 15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
H moved out 4/24/15
D Final 12/23/16
When God gives you a new beginning don't repeat the same old mistakes. It's 2020, anything could happen; eat dessert first!!!!
Re: Jack 3 Beans, RIP [Re: 25yearsmlc] #2735706
03/23/17 09:01 AM
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How sad. Deepest condolences to his family, friends, and you.


Me: 43, Him: 40
Married: 21 years

Re: Jack 3 Beans, RIP [Re: annab74] #2735758
03/23/17 11:35 AM
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Yes it is sad. He was in his 40's. Just tragic on many levels.


M: 57 H: 60
M: 35 yrs
S30,D28,D19
H off to Alaska 2006
Recon 7/07- 8/08
*2016*
X = "ALASKA 2.0"
GROUND HOG DAY
I File D 10/16
OW
DIV 2/26/2018
X marries OW 5/2016

= CLOSURE 4 ME
Embrace the Change
Re: Jack 3 Beans [Re: bttrfly] #2735966
03/24/17 05:29 PM
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Bump.. for 25

Re: Jack 3 Beans [Re: exquisitetobe] #2736575
03/29/17 05:28 AM
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Merged 25's thread from newcomers into this thread.
Not sure if 25 actually saw this thread but this will bump it up and combine the two threads.


Me-66, D33,S32
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