G, the plumber was hurt...that's why he chased you again 'cuz he couldn't handle hearing why you didn't want him. He had to try and win you over. He may call again but I think you know there's no spark there. That's OK. It's not everyone we can have that kind of feeling with. Give your heart a rest, that's ok too
Just so you all know,the plumber is definitely gone. I decided to text him. I said "I don't know what your deal is, but it is obvious that we aren't on the same wave length. I wish you all the best."He eventually replied " I understand, I think we are on different pages. All the best to you too"
It was clear he was just going to ghost me. It is also clear that he wanted me to chase him. I simply don't have that in me anymore. I'm also probably screwed, because I have no desire to do that with anyone anymore. It never works out well for me. I want to be pursued, desired, and sincerely have someone show interest in me. I gave all I had to someone and I was dropped on my butt when I had needs. I'm a little jaded.
Anyways, that's that. Here I go again on my own, travelling down the only road I've ever known.
That song has come on a lot lately. I think it's my anthem.
Ginger, I think you did the right thing and it shows him that you are a classy lady because you stated exactly how you felt about the situation and you didn't "ghost" him like he would have possibly done to you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Hey G, your post reminded me of a poem I wrote a few months ago...here it is.
Hate Me Softly
I like ladies who don’t like me They’re easy to understand No worries about mixed messages Or when I’m gonna to get canned. When she says “get lost, you little creep” I know just where I stand And that’s so damn refreshing I want to hold her hand! She never gives me enticing looks Or flirts with me online Just gives me that middle finger So I don’t have to pine. Rejection never felt so good No worries about what to say ‘cuz it’s so openly obvious Her answer is “no freakin’ way!” So hate me softly with your song ‘cuz we will never be No games, no crap ...no “let's be friends” And that’s OK with me.
I'm somewhat of a people watcher and following some of these things is like electronic people watching / just harder! I really wish I knew what was going on with this guy? Is he not sure? Is it just the chase? Does he not want to be dumped? Is he really a player? Does he not know what he wants? Or Is he just an idiot? Lol
I'm going to confess something not very flattering, there have been times, mostly in my younger years, where I really was not that interested but would still pursue a bit. Not even sure why. Often if she became interested I lost interest. Is that what happened here? I don't know. Just interesting to watch.
OTOH I also find it a delicate balance how much/hard to pursue. Too much can be a turn off. Not enough and they lose interest. I think I just had that again where perhaps I didn't pursue enough but not because I didn't want to, because I didn't want to come on too strong. I never want to be THAT GUY who the girl is telling her friends "he won't leave me alone" it can be such a hard balance.
In the end and again FWIW I think you totally did the right thing here. I would have suggested you not even habe met him again for a drink that BTW somehow turned into dinner? STILL you had a few dates, some nice kisses that you enjoyed and hell that's a plus to move on from. Keep pushing forward.
Just, please, if the ex priest calls asking you out again, for the love of God, just say no! .
DonH Midwest Me 56 WAW-EXW 55 Met 11/95 / Married 5/00 Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06 4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D
