I have to agree. A month ago I was in favor of giving him a second chance. Second chance given - no third chances.
Things is, it sounded like you already agreed and it was happening very soon? Just don't let him con you any further - or just say you changed your mind.
DonH Midwest Me 56 WAW-EXW 55 Met 11/95 / Married 5/00 Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06 4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D
Ginger, never tell a guy you've dated a couple of times why you don't want to continue. All you owe him is "I don't feel we're a match" and that's it. You owe him nothing. He's acting like this was some big relationship and the issues need to be worked out. They don't! Job is right, don't do it...there's nothing to be gained from it and it could go bad fast.
Ginger, I can't wait for your update on Your night out for drinks.
I can totally envision this guy and the conversation. You called him out on something and he's probably not used to that. And that's why your one of those independent ladies. Haha. Good for you.
I agree with everyone though. He's wheezleing another date out of ya!
Even though it's hard to believe there are nice guys out there. Don't settle for less.
Hey, Happy New Years, my friends! I haven't been on the boards and just saw all your advice.
So yes, I saw him. We had dinner. It was OK. We talked some about things. He was indeed pissed that I didn't go to his house that night. he thought I was taking some attitude of "screw him, I don't need him" which is the strong independent thing he was talking about. I told him I don't need him. He is right. It's a matter of wanting in this stage in my life. he seemed to understood that. I won't take you through the whole deal. But he seems to be really into me, wants me to meet his friends and stuff. I really don't know what I am going to do. I don't know how I feel. I really don't know.
No one ever pursued me before. No one. Ever. usually, we end things and they are on to the next person in 2 seconds and don't bother with me. Maybe a part of me enjoys the pursing. Maybe a part of me is trying to fill a need in an unhealthy way. I really don't know. SO I am going to cut myself some slack while I really try to figure it out.
I had the best NYE. Best time. And having a certain someone missing from the party didn't really affect me. I was good with being the single amongst all the couples. Because they are all great and we all click perfectly and are family to me.
However, I saw a picture of that someone with his girlfriend for the first time. It hurt worse than I thought. The only consolation was that he looked miserable. And that's not nice of me.
I shocked myself with my fitness achievements. I am hoping to achieve even more. I am really enjoying the friendship I am developing with my gym buddies. We have some fun stuff planned as a group.
In this new year I think I am just going to continue on the road to my goals. I feel good. I have done a lot with my life. There is one thing I haven't done I NEED to do, and I am still trying to figure out how to achieve that goal.
This guy has the intelligence of a rock! He thought you don't need him...well, after just a couple of dates why on earth would you NEED him? WTF? He was pissed that you wouldn't go to his house...and now he wants you to meet his friends...huh? You also said previously that there was no intellectual stimulation at all when you're with him. Where's the attraction here? Being pursued by a cave man is honestly below you! Move on, G. Flush the plumber. That's my vote...not that you asked.
Yeah, dump him. Sure it's nice to be pursued; but the kind of pursuing that includes him being pissed you won't come to his house on a second (third?) date????
That's the kind of pursuing that's just all about getting laid.
He's clever, he suckered you into that date by challenging you to prove you weren't "too independent " or a feminist snob. Now he's enticing you with promises of introducing you to his friends.
Seriously: on this date, how much sincere interest did he show in your life?
I hate to say this, but I do agree w/the other posts. Flush the plumber down the toilet. I may be an oldie, but I have never heard of someone getting that angry w/someone just because they didn't come to their house after a couple of dates. This man sounds like he's got some anger issues as well as "control". I don't have a good feeling about him. Now, he's dangling the carrot of introducing you to some of his friends...nope, not a good sign when he continue to dangle carrots to get you to continue seeing him.
Ginger, you deserve so much better and no one should need to dangle carrots to get you to go out w/them.
I didn't mean to come off so pissy. I just can't even process anything right now. I'm having a bad day.
It's not going to work, for a bunch of reasons. No anger issues. I don't even think control issues. We just don't see eye to eye on roles I think. But he isn't really doing anything for me, so it's over.
Do I deserve better? I don't even know anymore. I seriously wonder if I am simply getting what I deserve.
For now, I've got an over-full plate, so I'll just stick to that.
