Morning Esame, Good for you with the smoothies and the duct tape. Can I interest you or anyone else in this new gadget I've come up with? Duct tape with a straw attachment for your STFU smoothie drinking pleasure?
I'm glad you had a good weekend. Yes, take it from someone who tends to throw DB out the window when my buttons are pushed "just so" --- you did a great job praising and validating.
Happy Monday! xoxoxo
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
I've not posted recently, things have been difficult but aI thought I was doing ok. Well then H dropped the bomb, he is filing. He saw a solicitor, he wants to proceed ASAP. He wants closure, apparently he will file on the grounds that "we don't see eye to eye". I really don't know what to say, the only positive thing is that he is open to continuing with the same arrangement for the kids, i.e. him visiting them here, so that their lives will be disturbed as little as possible. I don't know if he will keep to his end of the bargain, obviously I need to get legal advice as soon as possible.
So that's that. A lovely festive surprise for me. I cannot wait for 2017, and I really hope it is better thank this year.
"There's nothing sadder than a conman conning himself"
“There is freedom waiting for you, On the breezes of the sky, And you ask "What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, What if you fly?”
I am very sorry to read this news. Please see a lawyer as soon as possible so that you will know what your legal rights are. Don't believe anything he tells you, i.e., promising this or that, because it will change once the process begins.
Please take care of yourself and hugs to you and the children.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Oh and apparently he was under the impression that I was already dating. Interesting. I guess even that didn't make him wonder if he is doing the right thing though.
"There's nothing sadder than a conman conning himself"
“There is freedom waiting for you, On the breezes of the sky, And you ask "What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, What if you fly?”
I am very sorry to read this news. Please see a lawyer as soon as possible so that you will know what your legal rights are. Don't believe anything he tells you, i.e., promising this or that, because it will change once the process begins.
Please take care of yourself and hugs to you and the children.
Thanks Job. I'm feeling ok (surprisingly), I think my number one worry is how the kids will be affected, and if we can minimise the damage I can live with that. I'm not saying that I'm not grieving for myself, for the loss of a husband, my dreams for the future etc. But in my eyes my husband left me in February. A piece of paper cannot change that.
"There's nothing sadder than a conman conning himself"
“There is freedom waiting for you, On the breezes of the sky, And you ask "What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, What if you fly?”
I was regularly checking for your updates. I'm sorry to see this one! But yes, let's hope 2017 will be much better year for all of us!!!
Good luck with everything. Do get a lawyer right away. & also try to read expats in the U.K. sites, they usually have good advice/info, sometimes list of recommended lawyers etc.
Take care of yourself in the midst of this madness xoxoxo remember if the plane is going down, we are to put the oxygen mask on ourselves first, then the kids, otherwise we won't be in any shape to truly help them.
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
Sorry to read about the filing. I know that feeling too well. In regard to him thinking you were dating; I think they want to believe that we are out there doing such things to relieve/excuse their pain. It would make their actions more acceptable to them.
Glad to read he wants to keep the arrangements with the kids the same but don't let your guard down on this. My w's wants/attitude quickly changed after she got her attorney.
