RIP Jack3B from a newbie. I am sorry I didn't get to have the benefit of your knowledge and advice on my sitch but I have read a lot of old threads on which you commented and I feel that I have the next best thing.
It seems you were very much loved and respected on here there is absolutely no doubt about that.... X
Me - 47 H - 45 D-16 M - 6 years Separated - May 16
Don't leave me behind can't you see me I'm shining... (Years & Years - 'Shine')
I have read several of your replies on other threads and your direct and honest style of writing resonates with me. My thoughts are with your family, I hope they can see from all the amazing replies how many people you have touched through this forum.
My sincere condolences to all your loved ones.
"There's nothing sadder than a conman conning himself"
“There is freedom waiting for you, On the breezes of the sky, And you ask "What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, What if you fly?”
I registered on here in 2011 but I read for 2 years prior. I did not interact with Jack much because from what I read, he scared me. I also knew I could not teach him anything, I was his follower. I look up to him. His wisdom was priceless. He has helped countless strangers without wanting anything in return but to see us make it through. IMO, he was definitely a mentor on here. One of the GREAT! I will miss reading you my friend but I will never forget you! You are forever engraved in my heart and on this board! THANK YOU J3B !! xoxox
I'm speechless. The world lost a great one today. What a loss.
I got the news from Eric very early this morning (Arizona time.)
I've been trying to absorb this. To be honest, it hit me like a ton of bricks and I really don't know what to say. Words can't express what I felt for our friend.
I came here in early 2011 and I was a mess. Jack was one of the ones that got me through it. When he first started posting to me, I remember thinking "this guy is blunt." And to be honest, I didn't always like what he had to say. Over time, I grew to respect and admire him. Then it got to where I actually "hoped" that he would post to me because I respected what he said and I knew he spoke the truth. I would also read other posters threads if I saw he was posting to them. He told it like it was whether you liked it or not.
I didn't make it known on the boards, but I was suicidal for quite a while in the beginning. I think Jack knew it. If I was silent for a while, he would post a quick little blurb on my thread to "check in" on me. When my world was dark, he was my light. My rock.
I'm sad to say, that I never had the pleasure of meeting him in person, but I felt like I knew him. The boards will never be the same.
Rest in peace dear friend and thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Currently: M 54 XW 55 Sons 35,31,29,27
The Sitch: Married 26 years EA w/ OM 9/10 Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary) Sep 12/10 She wants D 1/11 W files 5/11 D final 10/11 XW marries OM 6/13
I didn't have any interaction with Jack but I certainly read what he posted to others. While maybe not directly posted to me, they certainly helped me reach the point I am at today. Rest in peace and thank you for all the help you gave to anyone who found their way here.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
From Valentine: Jack, the world is a little sadder now that you left it. You were a friend to so many here at a time when they needed it most. I hope wherever you're at that you're happy and the sun is always shining on your face. ❤️ Valentine
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
RIP, J3B. You will be missed by so many. I actively searched out any posts of yours because of your blunt wisdom and humor. You had the right words at the right time delivered straight up (I happen to fancy the scotch as well). Prayers for you on your journey across the river and for your family and friends standing on the shore.
M-51 H-54 2D-27 and 25 M-26 yrs Bombshell and IHS 7-29-15 He moved out 10-3-15 D filed 1-27-16 D final 10-27-16
I will just say a few things that struck me about Jeff. When I was on the forums, he was always one I really looked forward to hearing from. Wasn't always easy to hear what he had to say, but I always respected it. I actually used to search out what he was telling other people as well just to get another bit of advice.
I remember a thread on here where instead about our [censored] situations, we talked about music. I posted up Dry The Rain by the Beta Band. He loved it. I hope that song gave him a bit more joy in his life.
I never met Jeff in person, but we did communicate outside the forum. I remember when he had to start using a wheelchair. The thing I remember about it, was it seemed like it was just mentioned in passing. He didn't dwell on it at all. Afterwards, if it was ever mentioned again, it was in perfect self deprecating fashion.
Which brings me to his sense of humor. I rarely use the term "LOL" but truth be told his comments made me do it many times. He might have been the one person more sarcastic than I am, he beat me at my own game. I will miss trying to out wit him, which I rarely did.
Peace Jeff. Perhaps SMOD2016 will win and we can both laugh about it together.
Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
So sad to hear the news. I was never honored to have him post to me but if it was anything like Puppy posting, it meant the world when he did. I hope that he has found peace and enjoying the freedom of being able to run again. Blessings.
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory