Take care of yourself Cherry. I agree that the shouldn't be able to come over whenever he wants but rather than change the locks why don't you ask for his key back?
You are doing great in the circumstances. (((Cherry))).
Me - 47 H - 45 D-16 M - 6 years Separated - May 16
Don't leave me behind can't you see me I'm shining... (Years & Years - 'Shine')
M 10yrs T 13yrs BD #1Oct 2015-PA between WAH and COW BD #2 April 2016-WH resumed PA, she broke it off Jan 2 2017 WH says he wants divorce April '17-Letting go 2018 D busted DD8, DS6, DS3
Coly, maybe asking for the key back is an idea rather than put myself at yet another expense to change locks. And not unreasonable at all I don't think.
Surfer, that particular story got to me. My heart broke for that man, his wife and then his child. Utter heartbreaking!
Me 26 H 25 M 4 T 5 Baby born 4/14 BD: 1/15 EA: 2/15 PA: 4/15 reconciling: 4/15 ILYBINILWY- 11/15 ILY-1/16 ILYBNILWY 4/16 ILY 6/16 ILYBINILWY 6/16 Baby due 3/17 BD 8/16
Had to break my almost silence, I have a sonogram that he said he wanted to be at, so text just to ask if he was still going. He is. So now I shall give myself a minor pamper so I don't look as bad as I'm feeling today. Man does this sickness give me a beating sometime!
Messages between us are straight to the point, and after confirming he would come and arranging to meet him there, that was it. He's been dark to us all, including his mom. What I don't understand is how a toddler can be lumped into his feelings of anger, he never asks how he is or checks up on him. Still it is what it is and he is ultimately loosing out.
Not really looking forward to seeing him, as I know it's just going to be plain awkward, I expect the silent treatment like last time! Still, I'm there to see my baby, and he's not taking that happiness from me.
Me 26 H 25 M 4 T 5 Baby born 4/14 BD: 1/15 EA: 2/15 PA: 4/15 reconciling: 4/15 ILYBINILWY- 11/15 ILY-1/16 ILYBNILWY 4/16 ILY 6/16 ILYBINILWY 6/16 Baby due 3/17 BD 8/16
It's shame. If they ever stop to acknowledge the trail of destruction that they leave behind them, they will probably die from shame.
Cherry, at this point in time, he has hardened his heart. Wws always display traits of narcissism, some more so than others, while in the wayward fog. Narcissists don't care about others; they only use them as needed.
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
You do just that. Be beautiful. Be Kind. Just look forward to seeing your little bun in the oven!
Your S won't know what he wants right now. Don't try and second guess him if you can help it. It's just mind reading and you know it only hurts one person....you.
It is good news he is going though. Treat it as that.
Surfer.
M46/W40/D8/S6/T20/M12/Separated 6/2016,W takes kids Issues2009 Wpartying w/g.f's2013on EA2013PAdeniedWleavesMBR ImeetAP/EAhalts VariousBDDates MFCourse WSpew EAresumes I halt Wrages DBIng4/2016
Grl, I have thought many a time that he has many traits of a narcissist.
Surfer, you are right. He's going and that's a positive. I'm looking forward to seeing baby, I just hate awkward situations, I don't feel I have much to say to him right now.
Me 26 H 25 M 4 T 5 Baby born 4/14 BD: 1/15 EA: 2/15 PA: 4/15 reconciling: 4/15 ILYBINILWY- 11/15 ILY-1/16 ILYBNILWY 4/16 ILY 6/16 ILYBINILWY 6/16 Baby due 3/17 BD 8/16
Keep yourself light, cordial and beaming with maternal glow. I am so proud of you, you are handling this like a boss. I didn't have half the strength you had while pregnant and dealing with a WH. Your babies are so lucky you are their mom, truly they are blessed. ((((hugs))))
M 10yrs T 13yrs BD #1Oct 2015-PA between WAH and COW BD #2 April 2016-WH resumed PA, she broke it off Jan 2 2017 WH says he wants divorce April '17-Letting go 2018 D busted DD8, DS6, DS3
