Cherry. He's gone, but the drama has not

[JksD]

Cherry, ignore your h's looks. He's in a bad place now.

(((Cherry)))

Please remember that your wellbeing is as impt as your h's. I am biased so I will say it's even more impt.

[Cherry]

Thank you guys. I just wish I was having more luck with the apparent emergency services. The crisis team for mental health just suggested the police (for the third time) they aren't trained in mental health so can't really help.

I have literally tried everything, several times. I just pray god helps him. Today, my wellbeing has took a hit, I haven't slept well and the constant phone calls have both drained and frustrated me. Tomorrow I think I will contact an ic for myself. I have access to phone counsellors through my health insurance with work, they'll also book and pay for private ic's for me to visit. I know I need to take advantage of this and help myself.

[AndrewP]

Cherry- you have been a Lighthouse and pilot boat for others long enough. Good for you to get some support for you. The world will keep turning on its own for now.

[JksD]

Cherry, let your mil handle your h for the time being. If you can, perhaps you can get your parents to go over to your place and help out with s?


You need time and rest to take care of your baby and yourself.

[Coly23]

((Cherry)), just to let you know that I am thinking of you. I have no experience with mental health so can't give any advice but just wanted to echo grl's advice with regards to your ML taking a bit of the pressure from you. You need to really start thinking of your health and the health of your chicks. Remember you need to put your oxygen mask in first....

[Vanilla]

Big rainbow hugs

V

[JksD]

Cherry, how are you, dear friend?

[Cherry]

After days, endless phone calls for help and worry. He's just turned up at my house and done the Islamic divorce to me. That's it now, in our religion we are no longer married (the waiting period is once I have given birth).

I am now going to go as dark as possible when there is child arrangements. I know he needs help, but now I don't know if he was genuinely suicidal or using it to manipulate.

Obviously I am fairly cut up. I'm going to ask mil to look after S so I can have a little time to myself to collect my thoughts.

[Surfer]

Cherry,

It seems this has been coming either this way or with D papers. I am afraid he is a lost cause at the moment. Clearly his way of dealing with this has really hurt you - I would be really hurt too. I think going as dark as possible is the best thing right now, I agree with you.

Time to regroup as soon as you can after some down time. Could you chat to your friend, the good listener? I think you need someone to talk to right now.

I hope you are feeling more together soon.

Surfer.

[Cherry]

I really don't think he is right in the head. But yep dark time.

I've let my closest colleagues at work know so there is no awkward conversations about him anymore. I have bags of support and lovely people who will pick me up and help me through this, as well as you lovely people.

But for today, while S is being taken care for in going to take some time to relax. Wether genuine cry for attention or not the last few days I don't know. I know I did the right thing to help him, but he won't take it. So I'm not setting foot in those waters. I tried. My conscience is clear. I'm taking a much needed day in bed. Truffles a cup of tea and movies.