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RDS - man o man - I'm SO sorry to hear this. As the ancient philosopher might say "She got the gold mine - I got the shaft".

Stay strong, while your credit card still works go get a big pizza, a case of beer and sit around in your underwear for a change.

Tomorrow is another day.

Keep us updated - we're here for you as your journey takes a new twist along the path.


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Originally Posted By: AndrewP
Stay strong, while your credit card still works go get a big pizza, a case of beer and sit around in your underwear for a change.


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Originally Posted By: hawker
Ooops sorry I didn't know s@cks was a censored word


Yeah, it's weird that word is censored, but there are a few words that aren't. It if doesn't suck, but [censored], then it's okay. It blows instead. smile


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Everybody, and I mean everybody thought I was stupid for trying to work my M. Even my D thought I was rushing into this. She kept saying, "Dad, you know Mom can be so mean if she wants to."

I didn't think she would do this to me.

Guess who the fool was? Hint, his initials are RDS


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Oh you are no fool. You are a good man. You have your principles and you stuck by your marriage.

The fool is the wicked witch screwing you over.

This beyond svcks. But just know you are a good person. And I hope some of this can be turned round.


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Really sorry to hear about this. It's just tragic that so many people can turn into something so awful. You should pay her monthly in pennies or something.....


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Originally Posted By: Cherry
Oh you are no fool. You are a good man. You have your principles and you stuck by your marriage.

The fool is the wicked witch screwing you over.

This beyond svcks. But just know you are a good person. And I hope some of this can be turned round.


Thanks Cherry. I don't want to be so sad, but I cannot believe how much pain I'm in. I thought her leaving me in May hurt, but it's nothing like what I'm going through now. The betrayal is immense. I was extremely honest with her the last few months and all the while she put it in her "bank" to use it against me.

I wish I could walk away from it all and say f*ck it. If I didn't have my darling daughter I would quit my job and go live on the streets. My brother is homeless and he seems happy enough.


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Originally Posted By: Cherry
Oh you are no fool. You are a good man. You have your principles and you stuck by your marriage.



You know Cherry, I've been following your sitch, and I wanted to comment so many times, but I didn't know what to say. I thought everything you're going through was beyond sad, and it is, but I have to give it to you, you seem to be handling it really well. Especially since you are pregnant.


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That really bites! Your thread is scaring me now... we haven't talked D at all, but when it did come about in conversations months ago W said she wanted to go the co-operative route, I'm worried now that my letters and behaviors will backfire with me too.


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PacLove, I don't know for sure if my letters were used against me. I think what hurt me the most was I make much more than my W, she has had a couple of surgeries the last couple of months, and the judge saw discrepanices in my financial decleration. So she ruled HEAVILY in my W's favor.

But, I will say this, everything I had been doing the last couple of months she did try to use against me.

I'm NOT going to change. I hope to God I don't get to be this vindictive a**hole towards her. I now know every word and action I do will have to be with the understanding "anything you say can and will be used against you in a court of law".


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August 23 - DB used against me in every way
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