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Tate #2688940 07/03/16 10:40 AM
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If it wasnt clear in my answer, yes, my wife likely has daddy issues. She sees him as a family member but somewhat of an outcast.


M 17 years
3 kids
EA start 2010
ILYBNILWY 1/2014
PA 1/2016
Bomb drop 2/2016
Renig on Bomb drop 4/2016
Living as roommates, EA continues
Tate #2689390 07/06/16 12:12 AM
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Heading out for the family trip tomorrow. I'll see if I can put on my happy face for the week.


M 17 years
3 kids
EA start 2010
ILYBNILWY 1/2014
PA 1/2016
Bomb drop 2/2016
Renig on Bomb drop 4/2016
Living as roommates, EA continues
Tate #2689398 07/06/16 01:23 AM
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Hope you do okay. Personally i couldnt be anywhere near OM myself. I dont envy your position.


Me31 W31 M11yrs S6yrs
23Mar16-BD
9Apr16-W admitted EA w boss.
27Jun16-W Changed job and promised NC w OM.
14Jul16-Continued contact w OM.Start of Separation.
24May17-Divorced.
Tate #2689449 07/06/16 07:23 AM
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Will your W be on the family trip, too?


It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Tate #2689451 07/06/16 07:39 AM
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Originally Posted By: Tate
I'll see if I can put on my happy face for the week.


Tate,

I'm asking this seriously, what would happen if you don't put on your happy face for the week?

According to your signature the EA started in 2010. Maybe it's time to try something other than same old happy Tate.

I don't know what to do regarding DB, but doodler would make certain the BIS understood he was a great risk of losing the family jewels. Why are you the one who has to be uncomfortable at the family get-together?

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Yes, my wife will be on the trip. I will have eyes on my wife but I will play nice. You see, after this trip, I will be out of country for 2 weeks I don't Need to give my wife a reason for talking to my BIL while I'm gone.


M 17 years
3 kids
EA start 2010
ILYBNILWY 1/2014
PA 1/2016
Bomb drop 2/2016
Renig on Bomb drop 4/2016
Living as roommates, EA continues
Tate #2689476 07/06/16 09:52 AM
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Tate,

Is it possible that your wife may already have plans for those two weeks you're away? Occasionally WWs are crafty; you know, like a step (or maybe 100 steps) ahead of the LBH.

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Always possible, but as I've learned, I cannot control what my wife does. I can only be the best me and make her regret her actions.

I did slip up a bit and get angry at her for not following through with some chores she had said she would take care of while loading up the car for the trip. She got angry at me and said "see, this is why I hate you" in front of all 3 of my kids. I calmly asked her to stop and moved on with the packing.

So far, she has been sweet as can be on the trip.


M 17 years
3 kids
EA start 2010
ILYBNILWY 1/2014
PA 1/2016
Bomb drop 2/2016
Renig on Bomb drop 4/2016
Living as roommates, EA continues
Tate #2689751 07/08/16 06:00 AM
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Tate,

You're a very patient man. I have difficulty handling those situations.

I hope the sweetness continues and I hope you have a wonderful time at the family get-together.

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Just remember if you do decide to take the BIL out. Make it look like an accident. Its a family event you'd have plenty of alibis wink


Me31 W31 M11yrs S6yrs
23Mar16-BD
9Apr16-W admitted EA w boss.
27Jun16-W Changed job and promised NC w OM.
14Jul16-Continued contact w OM.Start of Separation.
24May17-Divorced.
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