Foucs on Me and my Boys 4

[Painter]

This is not a link to another divorce website so I hope it is allowed - it's info about shared credit card accounts.

http://www.creditcards.com/credit-card-n...-cards-1294.php

[J5K]

I am just going to let it max out now and pay the minimum.

[SH_]

Jimkao,

I have several questions for you about the finances.
If and is filed is there not some sort of freeze on the accounts and debts?
My other question is why would you allow her to max out the card and then pay the minimum? Why should you be on the hook for that?

[Painter]

You may very well end up getting stuck with the debt. I would not do this if I were you, I think you got bad advise.

[J5K]

SH

The equity from the house is in a trust account. Neither of us can touch that money. The remaining money is in our joint checking account. We have both agreed and signed documents that state we will not spend an excessive amount of money on purchases.

She continues to think she will be an SAHM and acts like we are still married. We will just finalize it in mediation.

Painter

I only have two months to the trial date so the debt will be split by mid August. There is nothing in the CC that doesnt have to do with directly providing for the boys and I.

[J5K]

All good Jim. Glad you didn't take it wrong. Can't change the past, no reason to feel bad. Fact is you're only a few months in. Everyone fumbles, or encounters situations they couldn't anticipate. What matters is how you adapt and lead forward. You are one of the toughest posters I've seen so I know you will navigate through this.

Zues,

I just saw this. I am going to take the posters comment as a compliment!

I put up with a lot with WW, gave everything I could and did everything I could. I guess I know how to pick them!

I took the boys to a Greek Festival today. They had fun playing and I met up with some friends and also saw a lot of people in the Greek community that I know.

As people have been finding out about my sitch they have offered help. Even had one person tell me that if I needed a place to stay for a couple of days, weeks or months in Toronto I could go stay with his mother if I decide to move there after the D. It is amazing to see how supportive my community is.

Mentally I am getting stronger. Not thinking about WW too much if any. I will get through this, life is starting to normalize a bit even though there will be more roller coasters ahead!

[bigybiz]

JK: When are you in Toronto?

[Phoebe]

Hi JK! You are right - the roller coaster ride will keep rolling on. Make the most of the days when it's climbing up and remind yourself that the difficult days are only temporary dips in the ride.

You are doing so well. I'm glad that you enjoyed the Greek Fest and that you are finding support in your community. So many people have known pain in their own relationships, and want nothing more than to help spare you some of that same pain.

Hang in there. You are growing every single day.

[J5K]

Bigy,

I may come up this weekend. It's my birthday on Sunday so thinking I might visit some friends and then pick up my boys on Monday from STBX. I will let tou know for sure by Wednesday.

Painter

Thanks again for the support. Things are getting better everyday. Life is too short and I will do what I can to make the best of it.

[bigybiz]

JK: Please let me know. FYI - Saturday, I'm flexible as W has the boys Sunday I'll be with S10. FYI - I live very close to the main "Greek" section of town. I'm not sure how to pass you my contact details.

Oh yea - Happy Birthday