Maybell 39: I'm Too Old For This

[Ggrass]

I still get the huge doubts, if he's genuine the what ifs, don't sweat it.

[Maybell]

Here is the thing that scares me: What if he suddenly decides I'm too much work, not moving forward quickly enough, too emotional, or not sufficiently available? What if he leaves me as abruptly as Mr. Fantastic left me? I'm becoming used to thinking of him as mine -- what if that's a mistake? Why am I risking that happening again?

[SunnyB]

I'm becoming used to thinking of him as mine -- what if that's a mistake? Why am I risking that happening again?

Because, MB, what's the alternative? Living closed off, never getting close to anyone again? You don't really want that, or you wouldn't be with NG. You want something better than you had with Mr Fantastic, you want to connect with someone on a deep level, you want a partner to go through life with. And you can't get that being the Cat Lady. Open up, sweetie.

[Vanilla]

What if he decides x y or Z?

What if he doesn't?

What if you choose?

V

[Ggrass]

There are bumps and doubts trust me, I have them too.

I have all sorts of melt downs, and most often caused by xh2. Things will work out the way they are meant to.

[Maybell]

I have the kids this weekend. Today was a kid event for most of the day. Mr. Fantastic was there. He announced that during one of the intermissions in the event he was going to go pick up the eagerly awaited new kittens. Came back from picking them up and showed the kids video of how cute the kittens are. They begged to go back with him for a bit to play with the kittens. He got visibly annoyed and sighed heavily and said, no, I have plans. Kids have been talking about nothing but the kittens since they got home, wondering how they're doing, etc.

Does he not get how mean and cold that was to them? Why couldn't he have gotten the kittens on a day when the kids could be with him?

[Vanilla]

Because he is MR Fantastic and it makes sense to him.

V

[JksD]

Mr Fantastic is not really not thinking, is he?

Ah, but he does have a track record of not using his grey matter...

[SunnyB]

Kids have been talking about nothing but the kittens since they got home, wondering how they're doing, etc.

Does he not get how mean and cold that was to them? Why couldn't he have gotten the kittens on a day when the kids could be with him?

Because he's clueless. Sincerely. He is so out of touch with his kids that this just doesn't occur to him.

And whether they mean to or not, your kids are filing this away in the back of their brains. Trust me on that, I see this coming out of my 18-year old right now.

[Maybell]

[And whether they mean to or not, your kids are filing this away in the back of their brains. Trust me on that, I see this coming out of my 18-year old right now.

That is already happening... The girlfriend's kids picked up the kittens and spent the weekend playing with them.