I am moving to Toronto. She is still at her parents house and has the 2 uear old. Found out I will be moving by tje end of the month. I guess we will see where the future will hold. I have a feeling she will not move into the place I find and will stay at her parents until the new house is built even though I have done eveything she has asked. I do not contact her unless it has to do with the boys and she and I no longer talk about anything else. I guess she is done with being my W.
H-46 XW-38 T-7 M-6 S-9,8,8,6,4 S 11/30/15, I filed 12/8/15 EA 2/1/16 D dismissed 3/24/16 PA 3/18/16 confirmed 4/22/16 XW files for D 4/1/16 - D final 11/17/16 Finally moving forward...
Well it sounds like it is over. Her idea of reconciling is coparenting. I hope my boys realize how selfish she is when they are older.
H-46 XW-38 T-7 M-6 S-9,8,8,6,4 S 11/30/15, I filed 12/8/15 EA 2/1/16 D dismissed 3/24/16 PA 3/18/16 confirmed 4/22/16 XW files for D 4/1/16 - D final 11/17/16 Finally moving forward...
I also had a feeling that this would happen. All I can say is that I will go there and try but as Sandi stated, 100% of what W says are lies. I cannot believe I married a person like her. I am very angry again to the point that I just want to move on with my life and not have anything to do with her. She expects me to take the kids to extracurricular activities like swim classes. Why should I do that if she is the one with custody. This woman needs serious mental help, she is not stable and all she is doing is damaging the lives of 5 boys.
I know when I move up there I will have them more than I can imagine.
H-46 XW-38 T-7 M-6 S-9,8,8,6,4 S 11/30/15, I filed 12/8/15 EA 2/1/16 D dismissed 3/24/16 PA 3/18/16 confirmed 4/22/16 XW files for D 4/1/16 - D final 11/17/16 Finally moving forward...
I guess I am doing OK. I have come to terms that I cannot change who she is and will have to deal with whatever her choices are. She is happy that we have sold the house and that I a moving up to Toronto and that I want to be friends with her.
I still have dreams that she is with other men and sometimes have trouble sleeping.
Overall I am at about 70% good with myself. I know who I am. I am a good person. I can only do what I can each day. I sometimes feel numb going through the motions of getting the boys off to school and doing things at work but I have been smiling more often.
This is what I find most difficult. Smiling and having fun. I am a laid back person and don't want much other than my kids to be happy and my W.
I guess lately here are the positives.
D is dismissed. I will be friends with my W and separated. Can't control what she will do in the future but I am content with who I am. I am doing everything I can for my boys. Live day by day and enjoy every moment I have with my kids. Make it a point to smile every day and tell myself I am a good person.
H-46 XW-38 T-7 M-6 S-9,8,8,6,4 S 11/30/15, I filed 12/8/15 EA 2/1/16 D dismissed 3/24/16 PA 3/18/16 confirmed 4/22/16 XW files for D 4/1/16 - D final 11/17/16 Finally moving forward...
Well, I hate to see you settle, but you have to do what is right for you. I hope you will build a life outside of the W and kids.
You are a good man, Jim. You are sacrificing for those kids. I hope you will not become isolated and have nobody but the kids. Meet people and make new friends.
I hope you won't stop posting. ((hugs))
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
As my DB coach said. I need to be consistent with the way I act. First step is to be friends with her. He says I will not get to the next level without being a friend first.
I have no problem making friends. I have some froends in Toronto. The next move is hers.
H-46 XW-38 T-7 M-6 S-9,8,8,6,4 S 11/30/15, I filed 12/8/15 EA 2/1/16 D dismissed 3/24/16 PA 3/18/16 confirmed 4/22/16 XW files for D 4/1/16 - D final 11/17/16 Finally moving forward...
Question: Do I tell my boys that W is dating an OM?
H-46 XW-38 T-7 M-6 S-9,8,8,6,4 S 11/30/15, I filed 12/8/15 EA 2/1/16 D dismissed 3/24/16 PA 3/18/16 confirmed 4/22/16 XW files for D 4/1/16 - D final 11/17/16 Finally moving forward...
