Well, I've had a nice walk and avoided all that valentines nonsense. Done all my washing, ironing and chores as well - a very productive day!
Hi sandi2 - honoured to see you on my thread! Ah, a f*** buddy! OK, that's very brave of you to admit that's what you wanted. I have looked on the internet and their are all sorts of weird and wonderful sites/sights out there, but I think I'll just try socialising for now.
I did go for a coffee with a lady last week. She was also separated. We both wanted to see what it was like. We got on very well, but she didn't think she was ready and I wasn't really wanting anything serious either. It was fun, however, just to chat to somebody of the opposite sex.
Three weeks to Hong Kong - yipee!
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Random journaling. For my thought process rather than for people to read. Random typing!
So, W texts me yesterday asking if kids can come over as they have been asking for me. Yeah, no problem, bring them over. W arrives and tells me how my S's behaviour has been better this week (it's only Tuesday!)because he's 'been with you and spent time with you'. My son has severe autism. W then tells me how bad her new accommodation is - 'it's an old house and takes so much time to clean and keep warm' (I'm in a modern two bed) and talks about how much the kids miss me etc. and wonders if she could call me wen the kids are asking for me - no problem.
When W comes to pick the kids up later, she gives me more random chit chat about how bad her life is right now and about how much the kids miss me etc. I chat, validating her points but desperately inside want to say 'I told you so', but don't.
It's my birthday this weekend and she hasn't mentioned the kids giving me gifts etc. Not a worry as I generally don't celebrate birthdays, but there is a definite change there. Just gonna see how this cooks.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Sounding good Huddy. Her moods or thoughts can't influence yours until she makes it clear. Maybe she's seeing a break in the fog , maybe she's buttering you up for something. Either way , live your life and see what develops
It's my birthday! 44. How on earth did I get to that age? I still feel 21 inside!
Anyway, W called yesterday to say the kids wanted to come over Sunday and see me. No problems; we'd arranged for Monday, but she said the kids wanted to see me on my birthday. As they are too young to know it's my birthday, I'm a bit suspect.
I have noticed that W now starts every text/conversation with 'if you're in', requesting to know my whereabouts. Very odd.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
W brought kids. She managed to bring some choclolates and a t shirt from the kids, but managed to forget the card! It's the thought that counts. She has just come for them and seemed quite pleasant and even gave me a smile. Still doesn't feel like she's changing although the questioning of my whereabouts intrigues me.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Hi Huddy. Change takes along time mate. Any of the success stories involve time and lots of it. I think years are Involved but it's a bit much for newbies to handle at the start
Your getting on with life and leaving her to hers. Sometimes we look for signs but we could easily misread bad signs for good or good for bad so it's best not to read at all It's tough on us but we have little choice
Happy birthday mate. Have you told W about your trip next month?
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together
Ah, the trip. No, not yet. Go next Monday. Guys at work are telling me to say it's a business trip, but I'm not sure. I think it will really pi$$ her off (especially as she is now asking about my whereabouts quite a lot) but I also don't want to lie. Suggestions?
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
