A new way of thinking 2

[- MB -]

I am so sorry that you are hurting so much right now. The pain is almost unbearable at times and I know it's hard to believe, but it will get better. Try to do something to get your mind off of it for a while...read a book, call a friend, watch TV, anything at all to give yourself even a small break. Keep posting here, it helps just to be able to talk about it with people that understand. Just remember that this pain isn't forever. (((((Judy)))))

[- MB -]

Someone at work showed me this poem a few nights ago. When I read it, it made me cry. It's a beautiful poem that seems like it was written just for all of us Left behind spouses. It really seemed to speak to me and I plan to read it every day. Please read it, maybe it can help you as well.
(thanks NYGal for finding it and posting so I could copy it . )

After A While
©1971 Veronica A. Shoffstall

After a while you learn
the subtle difference between
holding a hand and chaining a soul
and you learn
that love doesn't mean leaning
and company doesn't always mean security.
And you begin to learn
that kisses aren't contracts
and presents aren't promises
and you begin to accept your defeats
with your head up and your eyes ahead
with the grace of woman,
not the grief of a child
and you learn
to build all your roads on today
because tomorrow's ground is
too uncertain for plans
and futures have a way of falling down
in mid-flight.
After a while you learn
that even sunshine burns
if you get too much
so you plant your own garden
and decorate your own soul
instead of waiting for someone
to bring you flowers.
And you learn that you really can endure
you really are strong
you really do have worth
and you learn
and you learn
with every goodbye, you learn...

[JellyB]

Nice! thank you MB Jellyxxx

[Ancaire]

MB...You are a sweetheart. Thanks for the poem - yes, it made me cry, but then it started to make sense and sink in.

I'm feeling more like myself, promise.

I don't know what would have become of me if I hadn't found this board and all the wonderful people here. I shudder to think of it. It wouldn't have been good, I can tell you that for certain.

I was so lost, so confused, so scared, and feeling so very alone...then came hope, direction, and help from places I could never have dreamed. Life is good, isn't it?

[ARose]

Anc, I am sorry you are going through another rough patch. Please keep posting and let us encourage you. You don't always have to be the strong one!

[inpain]

((((((((Ancaire)))))))) I'm so sorry to hear that you are so unwell the last few days on top of everything else. I agree with you about getting any help that you are entitled to. Thinking of you and hope that you feel better soon. We are all here for you.

[Mona52]

(((Judy)))
Great news! From where you are, you can only go up! (God, please dont prove me wrong, just be a good girl and do what you are told)

How is that grandbaby?

You have a great grasp on your limitations right now. It is good that you are listening to the docs and not H. Now we can work on some GAL/PMA activities that fall within your limitations. When you first open your eyes in the morning, if you dont feel some excitement about your activities for the day, then we have some work to do.

Lets just come up with one thing. One thing you can do that is all yours. Something you can take pride in.

[JksD]

(((Judy)))

Sorry to hear of your struggles. Your H is the limit but you are taking control of your life. You go, Judy!

[mutatio]

Came by to share the love, be well

[SciDad]

How are you doing today? Any plans to get outside?