Recent Hurricane 2

[NateG79]

And honestly, now I just feel numb. Like I just don't care anymore. Don't need this drama anymore.

[NateG79]

And honestly, now I just feel numb. Like I just don't care anymore. Don't need this drama anymore.

[NateG79]

Anyone? Had a rough night

[2ltl2lt]

I wouldn't read too much into it. Could very well have been an accident. Just keep going brother.

[NateG79]

Anyone? Had a rough night

[trumpet]

Nate,

I would lean that the OM contact is done, but remember, don't trust ANYTHING they say.

My wife said the affair was over, and then he texted her, sent a Merry Christmas picture, and now she's filing the D.

She's going through withdrawls. You asking her to think about you really wasn't a wise move. You're hurting, I get it. Find someone to talk to NOT her. You pushing hurt on her will just drive her back to OM. Pressure - have to avoid pressure. You calling is against DB principals.

Live and learn. lather, rinse, repeat.

[NateG79]

Well, I didn't call. It was a text. And, I just don't believe the affair is over. I'm sorry, but texts just don't send themselves. I worked in wireless sales for 5 years. I know how cell phones work. You HAVE to hit the send button, so it can't be done accidentally via voice recognition. Nothing has felt any different since exposing, she had a couple of days where she was frazzled, and then back to normal. I also know that she had begun taking to a person from her past tat is currently going through a divorce. Honestly, I think it's time I just dropped this rope, and go NC. The fact that she got defensive when I said I was just asking tells me volumes. I just don't believe she can be alone.

[NateG79]

Thanks trumpet, it seems from that comment though,that not to believe anything, it means that she is indeed lying about it. Maybe I shouldn't have said anything about any feelings, and I did validate. But, I'm just too intelligent of a person to believe that was an accidental text. I intimately how phones work. I have the exact sane phone as her. You can't accidentally send that message, no matter how hard you try.

[trumpet]

It's good you think that about the text.

It sounds like you're angry about it. That's logical.

Your W isn't logical. She might have been sloppy with the texts. Seems like WW are sloppy - the fog of the affair makes the brain short out. My wife almost seemed to leave crumbs for me to find, so that I'd discover it. Then it went underground. Then she got upset I found her passwords, and found it was still going.

She was more upset that I found out than pointing out she's having an affair. Crazy stuff.

Most affairs burn out. 3 months. 6 months. A year.

Please find someone you trust you can talk to. Easing your pain is needed. Your primary outlet is now gone - that is tough to accept.

Dropping the rope is a process, take it from someone who thought I dropped the rope weeks ago. The NC is probably more like putting a lot of slack in the rope. And that's a great way to make sure to save the marriage.

When someone on here truly drops the rope, for the last time, it seems like the talk on their posts isn't about the WW/WAS, it's about what's going on in their life, and the exciting things they see in the present and future.

Keep working. Your daughter deserves her daddy. A daddy that is strong and wise. A daddy that worked to become the best Nate there ever has been, for her. Make her proud.

[NateG79]

I feel as if, if it's not the original om, it's now someone else. The OM1 had mentioned that she had begun talking to another person I know, currently going through a divorce with 2 kids and one on the way, he's in his 40s and a radio Dj here locally. She says she just needed someone neutral to talk to, I don't buy it. Either way, she's exhibiting the same behavior as when she was with OM1 and stringing me along without filing D. She doesn't seem to me to be grieving the loss of a relationship.