Dealing with WW, Kids, and Divorce 2

[Vanilla]

My thoughts exactly WhyUs, in fact I posted something similar on RDs threads today. Any R intended to be can wait.

Don't want to p in the soup.


V

[angel r]

YES, you can totally forget about the marriage when you focus on a different girl. Thats what happen when i went out. I was like " you know what , this isnt that bad, this girls seems pretty interesting and fun!

But in our heart , we want this marriage to work. Better not risk it.

[WhyUs]

I just found out that a friend of mine has sent a couple of emails to WW over the past two months. He has essentially encouraged her to save the marriage. He has encouraged her to watch certain movies and listen to certain songs that are inspiring.

He said the first time he sent her an email she responded and said she would watch the movie. She did not respond on the second email he sent.

Do you think this kind of thing is good or bad? I honestly had no idea that the emails were being sent so I had no control over it.

[Vapo]

I think it's bad, because your W is bound to get the impression that you put him up to it. And you will be in the dog house because of it and in her eyes you will be painter pathetic...

[WhyUs]

Yep, that is what I was thinking. She is in no place mentally to be receiving practical advice from a person that is pro marriage.

[pinn]

Yea it is bad just like vap says. But why did your friend even do that behind your back? I would be beyond mad if that was me.

[Drew]

I honestly had no idea that the emails were being sent so I had no control over it.

No, you don't.

[WhyUs]

I'm not mad at the friend. He is a very nice person and mentor to me. His intentions were good. Sometimes even those of us with the best of intentions make mistakes. I will just keep rolling with the punches.

She also knows him and there is a chance that she would know he would send those emails without any pressure from me. I have learned not to assume WW is thinking anything. As humans, we try to fill the gaps when we do not know the answers. The fact is, we rarely can fill the gaps accurately. However, this does not prevent us from trying:)

[Vanilla]

WhyUs, it as it is.

Neither good nor bad. In time WW will understand the friend initiated himself.

Bear it no mind, say thank you for caring but please ask me.

It is much better than a PF (poisonous friend).

V

[WhyUs]

So nice to hear from you V. I have not been on the board as much lately. I will have to catch up on your sitch soon.