Hi Vanillia. While we are not allowed to meet please please do not hesitate to contact should you need any help while here. I would be upset and disappointed if ( and I sincerely hope you don't !! ) you needed help and didn't let me know
Hi Huddy. I think it's more for male / female type sitch as we are all venerable and meeting someone might not be best for the obvious reasons
Pink. !!!!!!! Thanks for checking in. I'm still looking for your post about yourself and the boys. Not doing too good today. Before I start my tale of woe can I tell you a secret. Every morning when I wake up I check my iPhone for the weather On the app I have where I live , where I work , London , lanzarote and New York Also I have Colorado and have had for over 8 months. So I think how your doing everyday 😄
I blocked EXW from my phone on Friday afternoon On sat I went out to visit and friend who is still on Dyalisis after 12 years of waiting for a transplant He's really down and it does focus your mind on things in a real world way. On Sunday I went out shopping when EXW was due to call in after work and on Monday ( a bank holiday ) I went out for the day and ended up at work. EXWs parents arrived from the UK yesterday so I unblocked EXW incase she needed help with them. They are not in great health and have not supported EXW in leaving.
EXW called in last night about 8pm and was on the verge of tears. She said she had been to see inlaws and was heading home. I asked how they were and then carried on watching TV EXW left 2 mins later and again seemed in the verge of tears.
This morning EXW called at work and asked me was everything ok as I hadn't answered her texts. I said everything was fine and i hadn't seen her texts. She said she was very sick on Monday and text me to say she wouldn't be calling to see kids. EXW then went on to say inlaws were hoping to say hello if I was home early one day. I answered I would prefer not to see them as I felt it would be awkward for us all and didn't see the point. EXW said they didn't support her leaving and I answered that I fully appreciated that but I'm from your old life and not in your new life and felt it would be easier for all if we didn't meet. EXW said ok and said she had to go.
I dropped S20' to the bus today at lunch time so he could go home to see inlaws. His bike is off the road again and I haven't had time to sort it
I feel I made the right choice not seeing inlaws but I hope they understand why
Other than that all good. Work is busy and I'm generally ok. I have my moments but then I think of lovely Pink and the great time we will have once we meet !!!!!!!!!
Please post soon and myself and lots of others would love to know how you and your boys are
Sounds like a strong move with the in-laws Rd, nothing good would have come from that meeting. Your boundaries are going to take energy to hold but you're holding them and that will keep some peace around you.
Agree with Huddy that it sounds like your EXW is really struggling. I feel for all of you.
Stay on the path Rd, you're doing it.
PP
M 39 W 36 T5 M3 BD - 1/15 Separated - Same Day Served 9/15 D finalized 6/17
Hi RD, I think it's fair enough re. the inlaws. It is a tricky situation and things do change significantly - there's no getting around that. For sure, your W can't expect you to be accommodating them, given she chose to leave your M.
On a lighter note, I heard a little news item about Dublin being voted as one of the best cities to visit - I can't remember exactly how it was described, but it was something like 'vibrant, exciting and pulsing'....that's just like RD I thought
Hope your week improves my friend xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
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Take care. Rd
I absolutely know this RD, others may not understand. This is a complex online world, but it's ours......
Dearest bruv!
I have a slightly different twist on your in laws, they are your children's grand parents, they are clearly unwell and you are very dear to them. You might want a quick brief contact even if only by phone, wishing them well, or send a small note via the kids, just saying that you want the best for them. It would be a small kindness for your kids.
Just my 2c
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