Six to Nine

[Uphill]

I don't know if you read up on my sitch, but Sunday OM was confirmed. Long story short, we had a good long conversation about it over the phone. Then last night talked face to face for a long time. Overall good conversation but I confronted the situation the wrong way and gave her an ultimatum. By Friday I want an answer which way he is going... Definatly not DB but it's how it happened.

[Vanilla]

Just checking in.

V

[mahhhty]

V... I read a bunch of your posts today. You are a saint. You try to help so many people. Its amazing. I have the utmost respect for you.

[Vapo]

Thanks for the support Uphill.

Its time for me to move on. I am starting to doubt that anything I do will have an impact on her.

WRONG!!!

You figuring out what will or will not have an impact on her is totally wrong. You really should focus on you...

[mahhhty]

Vapo - You are right. I have tried to impact her. I have had expectations. In a sign of weakness I acted impulsively to try to make an impact. You are right.

I have done a ton of work on me, and am very busy with many things. It is time to get back to that.

[Vanilla]

V... I read a bunch of your posts today. You are a saint. You try to help so many people. Its amazing. I have the utmost respect for you.

Thank you M.

I return the compliment.

V

[mahhhty]

Thanks Lady V!

So... I haven't responded. I am finally on board with what everyone has told me for awhile. It is unfortunate for me that I am trusting, naive and optimistic.

Newcomers heed my warning... Don't trust what you are told by someone leaving a relationship.

She has been with him for awhile. The new toy has met her family weeks ago. Her nor anyone from her family approached me. This isn't new. She stated she wasn't with him while we were getting divorced, but I don't believe her. How could I believe anything at this point?

I offered her my kidney days ago and she didn't tell me. I would say that is manipulation and low integrity at its finest.

The rope is dropped.

[Gmum]

Maahty, I'm so sorry. I hope this news at least gives you some kind of closure or clarity of your next step.

You're the one who brought Jack Canfield to my attention, so now I will bring him to yours: Remember E + R = O.
Continue to GAL and focus on yourself and your kids.

Wish I could offer you some comfort or wisdom.

[Vanilla]

It is also fortunate that you are trusting, naive and optiistic.

That is not all you are. Is it?

I challenge you to find 30 character traits that define you, so

1. Trusting
2. Naive
3. optiimstic
4. Caring
5. Loving
6. Articulate......

There kick started it for you!

V

[mahhhty]

Leave it to Lady V to challenge me, make me think and be correct all in the same post.

30 was tough.... I had to throw some of my not so proud traits, that I am aware of.

1. Trusting
2. Naive
3. Optimistic
4. Caring
5. Loving
6. Articulate......

7. Sociable/Friendly
8. Self aware
9. Outgoing
10. Adventurous/Nature Lover
11. Grateful/Appreciative/Polite
12. Kayak Enthusiast
13. Spontaneous
14. Rambunctious
15. Love to have fun
16. Passionate about the things I love
17. Can be persistent/thick headed/snappy
18. Can be obsessive or fixated
19. Procrastinator
20. Avuncular
21. Great with kids
22. Engineer/Problem Solver
23. I love to learn, not always through reading
24. I can be overly consumed with me
25. But I’m always willing to help if asked
26. Hard working
27. Coachable
28. Sleepy Head
29. Dog lover
30. A loving father