Smoothy in hand! New washing machine has been delivered, so that'll be nice to plumb in when I get home. I need my clothes washing, so I'll have to do it. W called to say it was here. OK convo, nothing earth shattering. She ended with a 'see you later'. Haven't heard that for months. It used to be followed with us both telling each other we loved each other. That bit wasn't forthcoming!
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Baby steps. Building on the small positives eventually adds up apparently.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Small steps. I think Neil Armstrong would struggle to come up with something appropriate.
Washing machine in and plumbed (transportation bolts - why so long and difficult to remove?). Did I get hearty praise? I will leave that to answer yourself, dear viewer!
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Do you suspect MLC? I think you mentioned this before but I can't recall. Apologies if you've already seen this but I thought this was interesting. It's written by a man but I believe the parallels are there:
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
i thought MLC was where we started with you WAW. There is still no sign of OM? So what's left? I am so confused! WTF is her problem??? she just doesn't want to be M to you anymore. Why? Can't we address this? She's 50 for [censored] sake - there must be some serious [censored] going in her head to throw everything away for what must seem to her a brighter future. What does she think this brighter future will look like? Is it something she could have in he life now, in the M.
sorry - just crazy man. I know you live with this everyday but how long can she float like this?
forgive me if i'm outta line here, and much wiser advice is welcomed to contradict me, but WRT to DR what is working here? is it time to change your strategy? Boot her out? stop taking care of her?
M: 6 T: 12 Kids: 2,4 BD: Jan 2015 S: Feb 2015 EA/PA confirmed: Feb2015/Mar2015
There is still no sign of OM? So what's left? I am so confused! WTF is her problem??? she just doesn't want to be M to you anymore. Why? Can't we address this? She's 50 for [censored] sake - there must be some serious [censored] going in her head to throw everything away for what must seem to her a brighter future. What does she think this brighter future will look like? Is it something she could have in he life now, in the M.
And you know this - How?
My ex never had an affair, except maybe with the hero of a romance novel.
so basically back where we started then - MLC of some sort. so patience is all that can be done? sounds reasonable, but damned hard slog for Huddy.
I couldn't agree more. Living like that must be difficult. Really difficult.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
