The World is A-changin'

[Bob723]

Dearest E,

I found you! Thank you for the posts in my thread (I replied to each there). I will catch up with your sitch tonight. I need to look at a few Nursing Homes for a dear sister of mine.

GAL and PMA!

*Hugs*

Bob

[Bob723]

Hi "E"

I know how it feels when your anniversary comes around. Mine was at the beginning of June. I agree with Zephyr . . . you turned it around and made something good of it.

If you feel like grieving . . . grieve. Kindly remember, sis, that grieving a loss is very natural. Also remember that none of us know what God has in store for us tomorrow. PMA. PMA. PMA.

Sending you "mega-hugs" and a polite kiss on the cheek.

Does that help at all?

Your "bro,"

Bob

[Elly4]

BT, it was a very hard day, but I had a blast with my S! He really had a lot of fun there.

Thank you so much for the support. It really helps!

E

[Elly4]

Hi Bob!!! I have missed you! Yesterday was a rough day, but today was better. Did some GALing and relaxing. Then my H took us out to a nice restaurant. Didn't really talk much to me while there, but it was interesting that he would do it.

Thanks again Bob. And if you could send some prayers I'd appreciate it as my S is going in for his evaluation tomorrow.

*Hugs* back at ya,

E

[Bob723]

Thanks again Bob. And if you could send some prayers I'd appreciate it as my S is going in for his evaluation tomorrow.

Hi E,

Already done...twice. The best of luck tomorrow, I'll be thinking about you and your son. By the way, I have really missed you, too.

It must be so hard not to worry. I've been searching and found a Bible verse that, I believe, speaks to thinking positive thoughts. I dedicate this to you and your family:

“Summing it all up, friends, I’d say you’ll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious—the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse” (Philippians 4:8 Msg)."

*Hugs*

Bob

[Elly4]

So good news/bad news. My S is not autistic but does have an anxiety disorder due to his intelligence. So that we can work on.

Not sure what my H is feeling though as he has clammed up.

[Zephyr]

Hi E, that is good news.

The clamming up thing...most men do it. We have no idea how to communicate our feelings, good or bad. We we raised that was and genetically programmed that way.

That inertia is very difficult to overcome. All you can do is offer up your emotional reaction to the news and offer an war if he wants to respond.

He has to want to talk about it...no wild horses gonna drag emotions out of a man if he don't won't to. Now a good councillor can help, but I'd bed a dime to a donut that most men have no inkling of desire for that unless he has something to lose if he doesn't, he won't go.

[Elly4]

Zephyr, I think for the most part it is good news. There is a little bit of unknown in there as they want to monitor him for the next few years to see how it goes. I think my H has problems dealing with that ambiguity as I do as well.

I noticed today that when he was quiet and thinking, I immediately jumped to he was upset at me, while in actuality he was digesting the testing and follow up from today. When I gave him the space, he started talking to me.

I wonder how many times in our M that he felt he couldn't be upset or worried because I would assume I screwed up...something to think about and bring up with my IC.

Very reflective night for me.

[V2pt0]

E, just stopping by. Glad to hear things went well with testing.

I know how easy it is to mind read our H's feelings. I have been doing that as well and I am trying hard to stop it. That and not truly listening. Hsve a bad habit of focusing on what I want to say when he is still talking.

Good on you for taking time for reflection. So important!!

[Zephyr]

Hey E,

how is the week going. I know school is starting soon...probably too soon so are you ready?

Just dropping in to say we are thinking of you and wishing you a care free afternoon (wishful thinking for sure) !!!