Really no updates, haven't talked much. She pretty much stated she hates me. So I'm just trying to go dark but still be there as much as possible for my D. I feel ok one minute and ripped apart the next. When I do see her she acts like nothing is going on and she's happy. I am beating myself up thinking and being told this is all my fault. This is hard. Hopefully there is light at the end of this tunnel
If you have not already done so read Sandi's posts about Wayward Wives. It is best for you to do this immediately. This can prevent you from putting yourself further back.
Me: 30's W: 30's M: 12yrs EA: Started 3/2015 MC Started: 4/2015 She moved out and served 6/2015 PA: Confirmed 10/5/2015 2 young kids
"If you do not stand for something you will fall for anything."
While you certainly had a hand in it....it isn't all your fault. Are you still going to MC?
My advice would be to concentrate on understanding your issues. Think about the things that she complained about that she nagged about and work on those. Also, concentrate on things you always wanted to do but didnt, for whatever reason.
Be the best father and man you can be without her. It is hard. Space and time are what she needs. Don't go dark or ignore her, but don't initiate contact. It may take awhile to hear from her but when you do......be cordial and nice. Do not talk about R until she is ready to. And when she does, have no expectations.
She will say things that are hurtful and upsetting. Let it slide. Read the homework that Cadet posted for you. It is gathered from years of experience from what works.
The man she knew is gone......You are a better man now who any woman would be a fool to leave. Hang in there buddy. We are all going through chit. You have our support but do the homework
T14 M5 SD15,D8,S6,D3 "Not Happy" 12/11/14 EA discovered 2/11/15 MC started 2/17/15 MC "put on hold" 4/3/15 W IC started 4/5/15 PA admitted 5/7/15 WW moves out 5/8/15 WW gets her own place 7/15/15
Well having a rough day today, no contact maybe 1 short txt about d4. It's crazy how someone can completely make you feel like you world is over. I'm trying to stick to my guns on this. I guess a lot of me is confused. Mornings and nights are the worst for me. Supposed to go to MC tonight but I believe she is going to be a noshow, she hasn't mentioned it and the first session she didn't look to happy about it. Argh I just wanna get out of this funk
Well stbx w txt and said she needs the address I'm staying at, I'm sure this means the D paper work is on its way. What is wrong with this girl seriously giving up to easily. Idk kinda in shock and hurting once again this [censored]
Well stbx w txt and said she needs the address I'm staying at, I'm sure this means the D paper work is on its way. What is wrong with this girl seriously giving up to easily. Idk kinda in shock and hurting once again this [censored]
This is mindreading at best. You do not know why she wants your address. Maybe it is divorce papers....maybe its not.
Also, she was curious what you are up to. That at least shows that she is wondering. Keep up the mystery but don't be curt about it.
T14 M5 SD15,D8,S6,D3 "Not Happy" 12/11/14 EA discovered 2/11/15 MC started 2/17/15 MC "put on hold" 4/3/15 W IC started 4/5/15 PA admitted 5/7/15 WW moves out 5/8/15 WW gets her own place 7/15/15
Good point. It's almost like she's poking me with a stick, now she's telling me my actions are showing no change. Which isn't true I haven't spoken with her in a few days.
