When did she say she would stop this? I don't remember reading that part, or see it in this thread.
Regardless, it not that important to what your doing. Don't let it get your worked up because then you might react to her, just keep doing what you have been doing. She could be saying/doing this for many different reasons. Time will tell.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
Did you order it from Amazon? They usually give you a range of dates to expect it to arrive. Check your email.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Seems to be a delay in getting posts, so haven't seen your comments until today.
She mentioned she wanted a bill yesterday to give to L. I queried as W had said she wasn't pursuing L anymore. Said she had instructed L to stop proceedings, but wanted to give L the bill as a back up. W has been calmer in the past week since she's been ill. Wait and see.
NDY
Yeah, Amazon gave me a TWO week window. I have checked and it says 'on its way'; they're only posting it from London. I could have nipped down and got it myself quicker.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Unusual one last night. W was wondering if we should look into a new joint credit card. I said 'it's a bit late for that' and W said 'why is it?'. Left it at that but the elephant in the room is that W has said she doesn't want R, or even initiated any kind of conflict release, but she wants to talk about joint finances together. Hmmm......
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Your book has to turn up soon. She's talking about a future with you. Send a. At signal out for a vet because this is a very good sign.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Book arrived yesterday. Through to about chapter 4 so far. First section is heavy going, but second section seems more approachable, the solutions and actions part.
Things have been calmer this week. W cooked a meal for teatime - Pasta Bake. First time in weeks that has happened. Using the first elements of the book, I communicated how much I appreciated this action on W's part. OK, I didn't get a huge reaction, but I have started to initiate the changes, building on what has been achieved whilst she has been ill.
Tried a bit of light conversation. Got a few sentences, but they W put up the defences. Had my STFU smoothie and retreated. A start. More positive in my outlook than for a long time.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Thank goodness for that. The book arrived. So now you have a chance. Yea, it is kinda weird but I think in your situation it stands a really good chance of working. Remember, if it works keep doing it. If it doesn't change it. Not that hard to grasp.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
