I used to get angry over texting/Facebooking. I don't let it bother me anymore. If she wants to sit in the corner like a teenager with her little inside jokes and Facebook memes, let her.
It's in my newbie opinion that while she's doing that, if I'm sitting there huffing and getting agitated, then that's showing her I care. Now, I just get up and do something with my daughter. If my wife wants to miss out on her daughter growing up because her head is always buried in her phone, that's on her conscience, not mine.
So meh it is then. That's what I thought. Thanks for the input.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Ok, it's been 3 weeks since she mentioned D, selling the house or anything about separation. We did have a few bumps at the start over money(she wanted me to proactively approach her about bills etc which is a lie, she was angry I came home). Anyway even simple things like stopping the joint cc (she's the main account holder so I can't cancel it) haven't moved.
Last time she spewed, I told her I wasn't standing in her way re house selling. She wants me to do it but I just said no.
So patience patience and more patience.
In the mean time it's GAL central. I'm enjoying the GYM and spending time with S9, visiting family etc. I can honestly say I've been out more these days than ever. I'd rather the circumstances were different but hey.
On an emotional front, I feel a little sad. Not hurt or depressed or anything just more disappointment. Is that normal?
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Normal to feel sad. I was in a meeting today and there was a woman police officer sat beside me. She had her ring on and I just thought she'll be going home tonight and it'll be 'normal', so I felt a bit sad that I can't have that at the moment.
Three weeks of not mentioning D or selling has got to be a good sign, surely? Maybe she's started the process of realisation; maybe she's looked around and thought 's***, what am I throwing away'.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Don't know mate. I'm not going to mind read, not in the slightes.
Funny thing happened last night. When my mate called about cancelling tonight she looked at me with slight panic 'but I've made arrangements for Saturday'
My response was 'yea, F isn't going out but I am'
Like what I do has a bearing on her plans. Ah well.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
San Andreas. Funny, about the only thing WW and I agree on is that we both want to see that film. S9 doesn't fancy it so I'm going on my own.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Yea. It's more of a fake it till you make it type of move. I don't really want to go out, I'd be happier at home but I need to be out. Know what I mean?
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Yeah, I know. Proving a point that you won't be treated like sh1t. Family men normally spend Friday nights planning a weekend with the kids. One day....one day!
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Yeah, I know. Proving a point that you won't be treated like sh1t. Family men normally spend Friday nights planning a weekend with the kids. One day....one day!
Yip. But, the say GAL and be mysterious. I'd rather be with S9 but.....
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
