well said. so now that you recognize it, work on it. I do not think there is any danger of your W running off or changing her mind because you do not come running back as quickly as she wants. If anything, it may help you. People want what they cannot have. If she all the sudden realizes that YOU may be having second thoughts as she was, she may become the pursuer.
Again, let some of the wise old owls chime in.
Me: 42 W: 32 Married 7 years together 8.5 S1: 7 S2:7 Bomb #1: 09-16-13 Recon #1: 11/13 A discovered 04-03-2014 W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me I filed D 12-02-2014 S 05-31-14 Divorced 5-19-16
Swipe, detaching doesn't mean you can't hang out and be with your W. But it does mean that you separate yourself from her emotional roller coaster. If she wants to do some bonding, don't push her away but keep an eye on the prize and don't pursue. Just be open to ideas and keep working on you.
You're doing well!!
M 46 / H 43 T 24/M 18 S 4 11/6/2014 ILYBNILWY 1/16/2015 Living in separate bedroom 1/8/2016 H moved out
