I have had a great weekend with the kids. Thanks to all of you for helping me to get the focus back on the children. Otherwise I would have missed a wonderful time with people that I love. S10 did not want to let me go. Right under her nose: "don't leave daddy, stay with us" W is still exhausted and looks worried. She lost even more weight. She said it's not a health issue, she would take care of her nutrition. Why is she not happy? She got rid of me, has a new love in her head and can start a new life. She should have bright eyes and a big smile on her face. What kind of "falling in love" is this?
Me 46 W 45 S16 D14 S10 M 20 yrs in June T22 12/14 sleeping in different rooms 01/07/15 she said she wants a separation 02/26/15 I moved out
This day was a good day. Work was good, riding the bicycle was fun, and I have spent time with S10. We have played soccer and had an ice cream. And I have won something at a raffle.
The only negative part about it was: When I went to the bedroom, to use my computer, I discovered, that W had removed my mattress and the slatted frame from the twin bed. Now she has a twin bed with a huge gap. Before I said anything wrong, I just left. I might read to much into it, but maybe it helps her to detach from M?
Well who knows? I am still not a mind reader and 95% of this day was great. On Thursday I go to the movies with S10. I am looking forward to this.
Last edited by koalada; 04/13/1505:32 PM.
Me 46 W 45 S16 D14 S10 M 20 yrs in June T22 12/14 sleeping in different rooms 01/07/15 she said she wants a separation 02/26/15 I moved out
I have left the (old) house and at the place I am living right now is a weak internet connection. It would not work. Sorry for this mate.
I have been to the (old) house for the video chat, but needed to leave. I know it sounds like a weak excuse. I really want to be part of this NMMNG group, but the only way to handle my emotions was to leave. I was a bit upset about this "bed-gate". I have slept the last weeks in a shi***y bed, in a messed up house with mice and fleas. But I have noticed, that I have calmed down faster than before.
Me 46 W 45 S16 D14 S10 M 20 yrs in June T22 12/14 sleeping in different rooms 01/07/15 she said she wants a separation 02/26/15 I moved out
Again a good day. It is sunny, I have had a long conversation with D14, some nice tea and coffee and wrote a song for D14. She is in the midst of puberty and needs some encouragement. She loves the song. W and I had a short phone conversation about D14. I was friendly, I have let her finish her sentences (one of my 180's..I was quiet annoying from time to time) and ended the conversation, when there was nothing more to say.
Me 46 W 45 S16 D14 S10 M 20 yrs in June T22 12/14 sleeping in different rooms 01/07/15 she said she wants a separation 02/26/15 I moved out
Dear friends, I would love to get some advice on my situation.
I have been to the movies with S10. I have picked him up at home and brought him back. I said "Hello" to D14 and S16 and left. Since that moment I feel sad and empty. They continue their family life without me. I know it is self pity, but I was close to tears. I am pondering on the idea of moving back into the house. Why do I have to leave, if she is the one with the problem? If she can't stay in my presence, she can leave the house. Why am I the one who looses the everyday contact with the children and lives in a sh***thole?
I might sound like a jerk, but this feels unjust to me. Am I a lame duck, because I have left the house and did not insist on her leaving? If I move back, would she be reminded of the husband she hates? Would it make things worse? Maybe I would would have a tiny victory, but would loose the battle.
Last edited by koalada; 04/16/1506:28 PM.
Me 46 W 45 S16 D14 S10 M 20 yrs in June T22 12/14 sleeping in different rooms 01/07/15 she said she wants a separation 02/26/15 I moved out
I would move back in - is it a house that you share the mortgage with? If so, it's 50% yours and get back in there. I would maintain a separate living quarters but get back in there.
She had the affair right? You move back in and make her leave! I would also reclaim the maritial bed. Again, she had the affair.
