Working the Plan

[HeavyD]

Thank you for the kind words of support. It means so much to be able to share and actually get feedback from people who "get it" and have/are experiencing the same tough issues.

Heavy

[HeavyD]

As always Wonka - thank you for the words of encouragement.

This will be interesting for sure.

I don't expect anything but I do feel like I have taken back my self esteem and dignity. I literally was paralyzed with fear and panic earlier. I have learned that through action fear diminishes. It is through inaction that the fear becomes overwhelming.

So I will continue to "do" through actions. That includes GAL, support groups, being open to new experiences and just living my life. I think these are in accord with DB principles.

Onward!

[Wonka]

Yes, you've got that right...they are in accord with DB principles. You go girl!

[HeavyD]

Wonka

I am wondering how it went with your situation when you took M off the table and brought in a L. Did you W get a L as well? Did she get angry? Was she more agreeable? Did you resolve issues L to L? Did you get the case setled outside of Court?

I know - so many questions.... nervous as the letter will arrive tomorrow.

[HeavyD]

Part II

She sent an email - to and from work - about some webinar stuff. The topic was a book I had and raved about several years ago.

As I am in NC with her, delete

[MrBond]

Did you tell her that you were no longer going to talk to her?

[HeavyD]

no

I just don't. It's too painful honestly.

[HeavyD]

Are you suggesting that I tell her I am no longer talking to her? I think it is obvious by now.

[MrBond]

No. What I'm wondering is why you don't talk to her at all for no reason if you want to get back together with her. It also doesn't hep your kids to not communicate.

[HeavyD]

When it's about the kids we talk - email or text - mainly email. We also use a google calendar to schedule kids events etc....

I thought LRT was about going dark - really dark. She is in an active affair and moved out out if the house.

Now I supposed to talk to her and email converse with her about regular events?

I am confused.