Every LBS on this forum will have asked themselves this question at some stage in their sitch Smothy, it's only natural. The specific answer for your sitch is really down to you though.
Why DO you?
Me 40 W 38 T 23 M 21 S21 S19 D16 S14 BD 19/12/2014 D mentioned 27/2/2015. I filed 08/04/2015, D Absolute 04/11/2015
Simply, I love him with my whole being. My body craves for him and I long for him to be near me and hold me.
Both 47 M 20 T25 S 18 EA July 11- Jan 12. ILYBNILWY Oct EA April 13 -July 13 Move to work abroad Sept 14 re establish contact with OW while away D bomb 22/12/14 D filed papers served 17/03/15
I am abroad and am unable to get hold of these books. Can I download them at all? Audio?
Both 47 M 20 T25 S 18 EA July 11- Jan 12. ILYBNILWY Oct EA April 13 -July 13 Move to work abroad Sept 14 re establish contact with OW while away D bomb 22/12/14 D filed papers served 17/03/15
H has emailed about finances, but just basic info, no hello, goodbye etc.
Both 47 M 20 T25 S 18 EA July 11- Jan 12. ILYBNILWY Oct EA April 13 -July 13 Move to work abroad Sept 14 re establish contact with OW while away D bomb 22/12/14 D filed papers served 17/03/15
Going dark and keeping the LRT in mind. I have printed off JJ 's information about it being a state of mind and keep telling myself to let it all go!
Both 47 M 20 T25 S 18 EA July 11- Jan 12. ILYBNILWY Oct EA April 13 -July 13 Move to work abroad Sept 14 re establish contact with OW while away D bomb 22/12/14 D filed papers served 17/03/15
Welcome to the crazy world where answers seem few and time is plentiful. Take a deep breath as you are going to be here a while. This situation cannot be analysed away quickly. Unfortunately we must allow time to must pass and soul searching must occur. Is there any way for a friend to buy it and send the book to you? What are you doing for yourself? Set 30 day, 60 day and 90 day goals around you!
Last edited by dejavu2; 03/14/1506:19 PM.
H: 48 Me: 47 Married: 19 yrs T: 20 yrs 2 teen-Ds and S H-MLC (started 2012) and H-Unemployed (11/2014) D-Bomb: 2/2015 H left country but hasn't moved out: 7/2015 I filed: 7/2015
I wish they could, I am in a country where posts takes a long time, but also may not turn up!
I will ask though as I have nothing to lose.
Feeling quite homesick today as it is Mothers Day in the UK. H is visiting his family for the weekend and it hurts that I will not be able to do that again!
Both 47 M 20 T25 S 18 EA July 11- Jan 12. ILYBNILWY Oct EA April 13 -July 13 Move to work abroad Sept 14 re establish contact with OW while away D bomb 22/12/14 D filed papers served 17/03/15
Did you hear from S today? Today is about your relationship with your son not your H. I realise that it is terrible to feel left out; however given you chose to take a job abroad, wouldn't you have been left out regardless of your marriage situation. Distance is hard on a relationship.
H: 48 Me: 47 Married: 19 yrs T: 20 yrs 2 teen-Ds and S H-MLC (started 2012) and H-Unemployed (11/2014) D-Bomb: 2/2015 H left country but hasn't moved out: 7/2015 I filed: 7/2015
Yes, I did hear from S today. We have agreed not to say anything about the D until July when I get back. There are only close friends and his mum that knows that H has filed for D.
I know that I would of missed out being there physically but we would all FT and chat, H would wish me a Happys Mothers Day etc. I miss our emotionally intimacy and contact.
I am trying to stay focus and not think about him and contact him. H did write on my FB thread Happy Mothers Day though.
Didn't sleep last, anxiety surfacing about this coming saturday. Having stupid mind games already. Telling myself to act 'as if' they really are sharing twin rooms and nothing more. But it's so hard!
Both 47 M 20 T25 S 18 EA July 11- Jan 12. ILYBNILWY Oct EA April 13 -July 13 Move to work abroad Sept 14 re establish contact with OW while away D bomb 22/12/14 D filed papers served 17/03/15
H emailed me last week to tell me he was being honest and open and has booked to stay overnight in a hotel with OW, twin rooms. Says there is nothing going on, as friends, have no designs on each other etc.
really?
Both 47 M 20 T25 S 18 EA July 11- Jan 12. ILYBNILWY Oct EA April 13 -July 13 Move to work abroad Sept 14 re establish contact with OW while away D bomb 22/12/14 D filed papers served 17/03/15
