As today is March 1,2015 I am writing you to ask about our separation agreement. We signed an agreement that stated you would buy me out of our house. I would sign the house over to you and within 3 yrs or by July 1,2015 you would pay me out $75,000.
As you are aware it was my life that was turned upside down when we separated . I left the home I loved and had to buy a new home. I left you with almost everything in the house and had to start from scratch. I used the very last of my Dads money to buy my furniture and secure my condo.
While with you I was committed 100% financially, emotionally, physically and spiritually. I was a good wife and a good step Mother to Mikka. I am and will continue to be a mentor to Mikka.
I can never get back the years of support and commitment I gave. I do not regret the time I was with you. I loved you and did the best I could and I can live with that.
I do want to know though when you plan on paying me out. Our agreement was that you would pay me out when you could but by no later than July 1, 2015. I have financial decisions to make based on the expectation of you paying me out.
I think I was extremely fair in our agreement. I am aware I could have chosen to ask for more in many areas. I only want back what I feel is fair and considering I spent a huge amount of my Dads money supporting us and my car was used as our family car our agreement is more than fair. I also took very little from the house ( anything I took was mine before we met.) plus left you with everything in the house.
I am glad that we have been able to be agreeable without the need of lawyers and hope that we can continue to be friendly as we will be connected via Mikka for many years to come.
I look forward to the completion of our agreement. I think three years was a fair and reasonable time. Please let me know what your plans are.
Sincerely
Karma
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Me 52 H 44 T9 M 5 BD 12/11 H split 8/12 OW moved in 12/12 OW gone for good 6/14 We get closer again 9/14 SD 13 Me 4 Grown
Accept what is...let go of what was and have faith in what will be.
I sent this to my STBX and had not heard back from him as of Mar 5. I did see him as I had taken SD out for dinner. He was very friendly. I texted yesterday and asked if he received my email. He said yes and he will be paying Me the first 25k this week and will be paying me by the July 1st date. I am so relieved. I also asked to take SD this summer to Mexico with my daughter and he said yes, he was not a good spouse but thankfully he is letting me be part of SD life and he is paying me back!
My new man is still ill so I will update when I actually get to see him again. Lol
Me 52 H 44 T9 M 5 BD 12/11 H split 8/12 OW moved in 12/12 OW gone for good 6/14 We get closer again 9/14 SD 13 Me 4 Grown
Accept what is...let go of what was and have faith in what will be.
V....I would bet you would be a fun travelling companion. You really must try and go. It's wonderful going to all inclusives there. Sun, beach, great food and drink.
Me 52 H 44 T9 M 5 BD 12/11 H split 8/12 OW moved in 12/12 OW gone for good 6/14 We get closer again 9/14 SD 13 Me 4 Grown
Accept what is...let go of what was and have faith in what will be.
Karma, what a relief! I really hope he's good on his word. Keep us updated. Also wonderful he's not standing in the way ov you taking SD to Mexico. Its probably in his own interest as he isnt very focussed on her anyway. But its win win for all. Im sure she'll love being with you and getting some real attention. Hope your new bf gets well soon, his health is not sounding so good, maybe he coukd visit his gp? Im thinking about a new thread but im not sure as i dont want it to be negative/rant. And though i really look forward to living my life w/o his looney behaviour, there's a lot that pops up that makes me upset. Like now he's refusing to pay the €40,- child support per kid per month. Imean he will be paying half of daycare since he'sofficially going to co parent, but this€40,- pkpm is a legal obligation based on him earning more then me. I just dont get how someone can be such an *** about his own kids. Its not like its hundreds of euro's. Pfff...
Me: 36 Him: 36 DD: 3y DD2: 1.5mo Together: 5y Married: > 3y D: April 1st '15 after 1y of affairs
M 53 W 44 D25 D20 S22 PA 10/95 BD abt 2k EA BD 9/2004 PA D'd 1/05/05 DB'd 9/2004-08 PA ends 02/2005 XW rehab 03/2005 piecing until OM3 June?/2005 Remarried 12/28/07 BD 12/18/14 Sep living together
Mum22 I am very relieved and yes I agree he Will welcome the break from SD. I'm glad he is Supporting my relationship with her. Even if it's for his own selfish reasons. It was amazing how easy it was to write to him when I was no longer worrying about how he would react.
It sounds like your Mr. is no better. I can't fathom how a man can forget their responsibilities. You too deserve so much better.
I'm seeing my new BF on Wed. He is finally on the mend. He was on antibiotics for 10 days! Will update you post date. ; )
Me 52 H 44 T9 M 5 BD 12/11 H split 8/12 OW moved in 12/12 OW gone for good 6/14 We get closer again 9/14 SD 13 Me 4 Grown
Accept what is...let go of what was and have faith in what will be.
