I was just shocked I'm back in the bed, and there was no fight. She told me "I never told you you had to go" SURE, you can cheat while I'm laying hear..OMG
"Sometimes, if ones' words are not better than silence, once should be silent."
Did you go through this sort of stuff in your sitch Starsk..the questions over your commitment/loyalty, ect. Once your spouse's A began to crumble? I was expecting her to all of the sudden head into a marriage repair mode
"Sometimes, if ones' words are not better than silence, once should be silent."
No, not really. By the time her affair was snuffed out (first by my aggressive confrontation, exposure, and strong financial and legal stance and then by her OM going psycho on her) she was ready to return to the marriage and didn't question my commitment.
I think it was a combination of all of the self-improvements I had made, coupled with her very easily seeing just how hard I fought for her. Sure, half of those things PISSED HER OFF at the moment, but she certainly didn't question how committed I was.
K. Thought I'd ask. I think she's still in a fog or, at the very least a haze. Think she actually has convinced herself while reinventing the marriage, that her distorted reality is truth.
"Sometimes, if ones' words are not better than silence, once should be silent."
K. Thought I'd ask. I think she's still in a fog or, at the very least a haze. Think she actually has convinced herself while reinventing the marriage, that her distorted reality is truth.
"Sometimes, if ones' words are not better than silence, once should be silent."
Hoping that lifts quick and in a hurray after she goes NC (IF she follows thru.. . .
It's usually NOT quick. Hard withdrawal can last from 1-3 weeks and total withdrawal can take up to 6 months or more, depending on how long -- and how deeply -- she's been involved with her OM.
In total, just over 4 weeks...about 37 days max. They were bed buddies 7yrs ago. This is the second EA with him, first was 4yrs ago when she 'had a dream' about him and contacted him via FB.I found out, she begged and pleaded, but I requested, and we separated a year, back then.
