I haven't had hot water in my house in over a week. I've had 3 visits from plumbers and three from the gas company and the problem is still not fixed. I probably will have 1-2 more visits from the plumber (and have to get the tank replaced) before I have hot water again, hopefully no later than Thursday.
Not one of the plumber visits occur outside of office hours so although I've worked really hard to minimize it, I've missed a few hours of work to resolve this problem by myself, even though the house is still jointly owned. Yesterday I asked STBX to step up to meet the plumbers this week and he declined. He also declined to take the kids for a weeknight this week (hasn't had them for a weeknight since before Christmas). On top of all THAT, he is starting to push back on kid activities that take place on his weekends.
Saturday he DID stay at the house for about an hour during a six-hour window of waiting for the gas company so I could get my hair cut. I asked him if he wanted the rest of his sweaters (about 30 of them) and he said AGAIN, "No, I don't think I want to keep all of them so I'll wait and go through them later." I said (kind of testy) "Or you can take them NOW and go through them at your place." He looked annoyed but didn't push back, so I stuck as many as I could fit into shopping bags and gave them to him.
Then he had the nerve to ask me how things were going on the divorce!!!
I am beginning to loathe the sight of him.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
Maybell, I'm sorry about the hot water, I've done it before, but only during warm weather (tropical storm or hurricane). Doing it in a cold place must really sukk.
And sorry your H seems to be getting worse each week. Good for you for sending his sweaters packing.
Maybell, the fact that he is declining the extra time with the kids will work in your favor when it comes to determining custody/parenting time. Get your fair share of child support so you can hire a babysitter to have the time you'll need for yourself. The hot water heater is a pain, but look at you taking care of business! You can do it! PS I loathe the sight of my STBX too -- what is is with these crazy WAHs? Whereas I used to always think he was so handsome, now I fixate on his crummy beard, his tiny little man hands (the man has SERIOUSLY tiny hands), and his bad posture. Easy to leave all that behind!
M: 43 H: 39 D: 14 Married 15 Together 16 BD: 6/2014 S: 8/2014 OW revealed 10/2014 Instigated dissolution 12/2014, in progress So over it!
Maybell-this won't be any comfort in your situation, but I have to tell you that reading through all your troubles with the hot water prompted me to go out and check the propane tank (this was always one of STBX's jobs), and low and behold it was at 10% and I was able to call for a fill in the nick of time. So....thank you..... Wish I could send a hot shower your way!
Regarding your H asking about the divorce -does he have a lawyer, or is he just expecting you to drive the bus?
He has a lawyer AND he expects me to drive the bus. Which I'm doing, as a way of taking back my power. But it still makes me mad. He can't even do that much himself.
I am refraining from calling him names right now.
So glad you checked your propane!!! No cloud without a silver lining, right?
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
The answer is really and truely a resounding no! Mine didn't step up one tiny bit more than he had to, which as he stated something's were not as they were, wasn't much. I suffered needlessly finically in the r as he always stated he was broke.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
