T0324 continued part 2

[JCred]

Do I tell him he needs to leave the house.

Yes. He needs to leave the house.

You said this was a deal breaker for you. He was told and agreed it was when you reconciled. He needs to learn the hard way like many men who put their job and career first before learning their wife and family is far more important. You obviously aren't first TO.... I wouldn't settle for anything less. There is something more going on here. Don't be fooled.


Not to mention of where this job is.....

[Train]

T0,

Stop. YOU are not putting your babies through anything. Quite the contrary. You are FIGHTING to keep your marriage/family together.

*Pull yourself together*. If I could post my number for you to call me right now, I *would*. But you have all this inside you. Pull yourself together. Get those tears out of your eyes.

Decisive, confident. You've got this, baby.

Keep your lips ZIPPED in front of H tonight. STFU is your assignment for now. No other "rule" matters. Pleeeeeeeease heed the rule to STFU tonight. If you're anything like me, you've heard all your life not to go to bed angry. Screw that advice tonight. Go to bed angry. Keep those (well-deserved) angry thoughts to yourself. Please. And then let's re-group tomorrow when you have time to post here .. even though I KNOW you'll be really sleepy and tired. Okay?

[Train]

JCred, I disagree with you here. T0, you can kick H out any time. Not tonight. NOT TONIGHT.

[Train]

I'm going to repost this, from my earlier post tonight in case you missed it because of rapid-fire posts on this thread. THESE are questions straight out of DB:

Think about what you want to accomplish here. What is your goal?

You say you don't want a D. Kicking him out in anger is NOT going to help you get closer to that goal.

What is your goal? Ask yourself, with every choice you're going to make, "is this bringing me closer to my goal or pushing me further away from it?"

PLEASE ask yourself these questions before you would kick H out of the house for something he SAID and not something he's DONE.

Like I said, let's regroup here tomorrow, T0. You'll be thinking a lot more clearly.

[T384]

He came in and said goodnight to the boys. No goodnight to me or a kiss like usual. I just said goodnight H.

[T384]

I want to ask him if there's someone else

[Train]

Do not talk to him tonight, T0. You did the best thing you could do for tonight.

Pat yourself on the back for that.

I know this is going to be a ROUGH night for you. Tomorrow may not be a lot better. But tomorrow is a new day. And we're here for you tomorrow. (And tonight, as long as you need us.)

[JCred]

JCred, I disagree with you here. T0, you can kick H out any time. Not tonight. NOT TONIGHT.

That's fine. I'm not saying he has to leave tonight.

[T384]

Can I go out there and say

I hope you can remember the things you said in August. I hooe you can find your way back to our family

How do I fix this? I know it's over. I know he does not want me. I can't accept that

[Train]

NO!!!!!!!!