Moving Out but moving on?

[edz]

...Can't say it makes me feel any better though

[edz]

Time for bed said Florence...

[jim0987]

It will get better as you make your place your own.

How are you settling in and what are you thinking for new GAL activities?

[edz]

Hi Jim

getting there all the rooms are liveable now except the en suite which is awaiting horrible things happening to the shower tray and the main bedroom because the en suite is awaiting horrible things happening to the shower tray. The office (bed2) is usable but needs a little more organisiation when I get the time and I need to sort a time to go and get a table and chairs from my Dad for the kitchen.

Still have to sort the utilities as I only just got the info from the landlord for the current providers so that will be this week. Water and internet both done though.

GAL well Ive nearly done everything I need to do in the house (one or two things to do in S's room yet) so next is pre-christmas stuff for S and the necessary shopping got a party to go to on the 18th and I'll probably kick the swimming back in now I have time.

Looking around now for something to do in the evenings so hopefully I'll find something to stop them feeling so empty but still working on that one.

[jim0987]

Sounds like good progress on the apartment anyway even if the shower tray sounds worrying.

So any thoughts on the kind of thing you would like to do with your evenings?

[edz]

Well the plumber has ripped out the old one today but they've ordered the wrong one so it will be a little while until its sorted, Im working from home anyway but if Im not the landlord will let them in. Hoping it will be sorted by the weekend but it depends on, as always, ordering the parts!

Absolutely no idea on what I'd like to do had thought about a few things including getting to grips with music again (used to play the keyboard by ear - fingers would probably work better in retrospect) but main stumbling block will be money of which I have less than none!

Wont stop me though, once the Christmas stuff and remaining house bits are done I'll get on with finding some open evenings etc to find out what's there.

[edz]

I am looking for some advice though, I re-read DB/DR last weekend (not sleeping has some benefits) am I doing the right thing being fairly dark with W or should I be doing anything to contact her. My gut tells me I'm doing the right thing by getting on with things and letting her do the same but at the same time it feels heartbreaking to not contact her at all unless contacted.

Writing it down it would seem Im doing the right thing, feels wrong but thats the core strangeness of initial DBing (good lord initial even after nearly 6 months - sigh) as you can see I still sruggle with being detatched!

[Vanilla]

Edz

Xmas is coming. My advice you urgently need a GAL infusion. An external non dating GAL infusion. A good cheer you up GAL time.

Then dark time won't be as dark.

Not a DIY activity. But a go to the gym, drink with mates, eat a crocodile, help in a soup kitchen type GAL. Kids Xmas carols, paint a Santa, put up a tree, cook a turkey GAL.

If you can't think of anything else try a new activity, Ceroc dancing, bowls, cooking classes, Fencing.

Let's see a GAL plan, it's Xmas, the GAL high time.
Go GAL.
Vanilla

[jim0987]

Edz

I like the music based GAL ideas if thats what you like doing. Can you still play (with ears or fingers)?

Dont worry if you are struggling to think of anything to do (i'm struggling on this to). I read somewhere that if you wait around to feel like you would love to do something then you will be waiting forever, instead try and do and then see if you start to love it. If you dont - try something else.

25mlc had a big long list of GAL activities around on a few threads which might be some inspiration for you

whatever it is i think you need to find somethings that either take you away from thinking about your situation or let you channel it into something constructive.

in terms of your DB question i'm going to have to defer to someone else who is actually good at this stuff - I cant even seem to stop digging.

[edz]

Thanks All

@Vanilla
I've been swimming like a fish up until the move, will put that back on the agenda now all the (real) heavy lifting of boxes chairs cabinets etc is done, not really the drinking with mates type but certainly the getting Christmas set up here along with S type - a job for this weekend. Im enjoying my cooking for varying reasons been self sufficient in cooking, cleaning and practicalities since my early teens if not before - used to do a lot of it before W left but of course now its up to me, I've got to re-assemble my utensils pans collection at the moment (shocking prices for decent pans as I found out recently and I need a couple of good chefs knives next) but then I think I'll try a bit of baking and something more complex than the dinners, roasts and normal meals Im doing right now. Also would help if I can get a manual for the oven here which has had the icons and temps worn off the front of the oven (Ikea Whirlpool oven).

Off to a party on the 18th which will be a departure for me, other than that keeping my eyes open.

@Jim
Hi mate
I can sequence stuff (or could before I ripped the system apart not back together yet and I could use a better midi keyboard device as the small keys yamaha synth I have is old in the tooth only has orginal midi and has those small sized keys when I have far from small sized hands!) but would like to go towards learning properly costs are massive though so may aim to get a keyboard first get up to speed and then see about the lessons.

Read 25mlcs list inspiring (and exhausting) that was so I have no excuses apart from malaise and lazyness!

Dont worry on deferring, I think we're all on a permanent learning process on this I did pop by your thread earlier but havent had time to get to the last postings - got behind when my internet was off, or more accurately I was away from it W has my phone line and connection until it switches over so S can do his work, she's paying me back pro-rata for that, or says she will, we'll see!

Thanks all.