H keeps copying me on videos of our daughter that he's sending to his family. Although I'm grateful for the videos, I think he is doing this (mind reading) to make it seem like he and I are on great terms to his family, who see that I am copied on the message. And, I guess as far as he's concerned, we ARE on great terms, since I no longer share my feelings with him. He is truly oblivious.
Had a great Thanksgiving with my family. It was really difficult to leave them to return home. Today I'm making holiday treats for the neighbors, sending out holiday cards, catching up with friends by phone, and getting things in order around the house. Wishing a peaceful and fulfilling weekend to all!
M: 43 H: 39 D: 14 Married 15 Together 16 BD: 6/2014 S: 8/2014 OW revealed 10/2014 Instigated dissolution 12/2014, in progress So over it!
Me 47 - W 35 M 9 - T 10 2 Daughters - 7 & 9 Discovery of EA- 8/4/14 S - 8/5/15 D mentioned - 9/11/14 R & Piecing - 3/17/15 Regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3
Just got another ticket, thanks to H. This time a toll road nonpayment violation when he was going to visit GF (though he told me he was flying elsewhere)... Sigh. Jefe -- you would like it -- I made Texas caviar.
M: 43 H: 39 D: 14 Married 15 Together 16 BD: 6/2014 S: 8/2014 OW revealed 10/2014 Instigated dissolution 12/2014, in progress So over it!
Me 47 - W 35 M 9 - T 10 2 Daughters - 7 & 9 Discovery of EA- 8/4/14 S - 8/5/15 D mentioned - 9/11/14 R & Piecing - 3/17/15 Regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3
OK, I Googled it. I know exactly what that is, we just don't call it that. I was born and raised here. I'm like 5th generation Texan. Good stuff!
Me 47 - W 35 M 9 - T 10 2 Daughters - 7 & 9 Discovery of EA- 8/4/14 S - 8/5/15 D mentioned - 9/11/14 R & Piecing - 3/17/15 Regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3
Just got D14 back. She started crying instantly, saying she wishes she could have been with me for Thanksgiving instead. Also, H finally admitted to her that he has a girlfriend -- showed her the picture of her online. It's the same person I suspected (out of town). On the one hand, I am glad that he's being honest (semi-honest anyway) with her that he has a girlfriend. On the other hand, it makes things more final. I don't see how we can return from this place. D14 even tells me that I shouldn't take him back because there's no way that he could be trusted. I'm so disappointed in his lack of character. The two things I value most are honesty and loyalty, and he is neither of those things. So why do I still care? Why am I still crying about this? Why am I suffering from a broken heart, when I KNOW, deep down, that I'll be better off without a cheating liar of a husband? I feel so deceived. And lonely.
At least all my neighbors liked the Texas caviar (and Jefe, I'm sixth generation, my D14 is seventh). One came by just to check on me (before I gave him the caviar). He's the same one who takes care of my leaves for me (gratis) ever since he heard about my situation. Two other neighbors invited me to a concert and said that they are praying for me. I really don't want to be seen as a victim or a pity case, but I do appreciate their support. Feeling very down at the moment. Probably just hormonal. I'm sure my friends are tired of hearing my sob story by now. I really need to find a new narrative...
M: 43 H: 39 D: 14 Married 15 Together 16 BD: 6/2014 S: 8/2014 OW revealed 10/2014 Instigated dissolution 12/2014, in progress So over it!
Hi Ahoy. So sorry for D. I appreciate people need to live their lives but why do they have to rush at it without thoughts for any one else. Your H should have given his D a lot more time to deal with the sitch and very slowly introduced the idea of someone else. It's like the WAS selfishness knows no bounds. Sorry to hear your so down but bad days are gonna happen. You've shown great strength on here so please know that you will come out the other side You have a lot of people on here cheering you on. Take care
I think that was a little insensitive of H to do that to your daughter.
Only you can decide if you can return from this place. It certainly can be done. And boy have I ever had the same thoughts that your having. Why do you still care? Love's a funny thing.
Glad you are there for D right now.
Me 47 - W 35 M 9 - T 10 2 Daughters - 7 & 9 Discovery of EA- 8/4/14 S - 8/5/15 D mentioned - 9/11/14 R & Piecing - 3/17/15 Regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3
