Sorry, Lisa, I'm with everybody else on this. While your description of his motives could be right, Ahoy's path seems clear to me. Rock that dress where you're the star.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
I think if he didn't have a girlfriend then I would probably accept his offer, but I don't want to put a lot of effort in doing the "pick me" dance for him at a work dinner. I think I would get my hopes up, then come home disappointed as usual and cry for a week. That is a cycle I'm not interested in repeating. If he were really interested in being with me, then he would dump his girlfriend and tell me that. But he's not, and I'm tired of playing games. I think dropping the rope and being direct with him is what I have to do. Who knows if he'll even ask. He might have been jerking with me, since he copied my friend/his colleague on the request to extend the invitation -- he knows she tells me everything. I just can't figure out what on earth is going through his crazy little mind.
M: 43 H: 39 D: 14 Married 15 Together 16 BD: 6/2014 S: 8/2014 OW revealed 10/2014 Instigated dissolution 12/2014, in progress So over it!
He didn't bother asking after all, so it is a moot point. Wish I hadn't wasted any emotional energy trying to decide how to respond in advance. When will I learn?
M: 43 H: 39 D: 14 Married 15 Together 16 BD: 6/2014 S: 8/2014 OW revealed 10/2014 Instigated dissolution 12/2014, in progress So over it!
To his funeral! (Just kidding -- couldn't resist.) The dress is proper enough for work purposes, so I might wear it to go meet some potential work contacts in the coming months. Or I'll have to insinuate myself into some holiday parties. Most of my friends here have little kids though, so there aren't many dress-up opportunities, alas.
M: 43 H: 39 D: 14 Married 15 Together 16 BD: 6/2014 S: 8/2014 OW revealed 10/2014 Instigated dissolution 12/2014, in progress So over it!
Hi Ahoy. Positive is that the dress looked good on you. Negative is your H is still an idiot !!! I have read a lot of posts on here and it seems rare for WAS to. be happier in the long run. While I know this does not help us , it is a comforting to know that karma is alive and well !!! I have read your posts since I started on here and your strength and kindness shine bright. Your sadness and frustration also shine and it's hard to read, so it must be 1000 times harder to endure. My I/c is a spiritual lady and looks at things in a very holistic way. Her view about WAS is that until they sort themselves out why would we want to be with them We are working on ourselves and they are not. End off If and when they see our changes and decide they want to work with us at an R , we will be in a position to let them or not I am glad I ' meet' you and thank you for all your kindness. If I end up without W , I hope to meet someone with your qualities. Take care Rd
Rd, Thank you for always being there for me, and for the sound advice, which comes at a much needed time. I spent last night comforting my D14, who started crying while listening to Xmas music because she says that Xmas is ruined for her forever because it will always be a sad time now. The holidays are going to be very hard on her. I'm so glad to have met you too, and it is nice to know that there are good people like you in this world like you.
M: 43 H: 39 D: 14 Married 15 Together 16 BD: 6/2014 S: 8/2014 OW revealed 10/2014 Instigated dissolution 12/2014, in progress So over it!
"Her view about WAS is that until they sort themselves out why would we want to be with them"
I'm confused on why ANYBODY would want them in this stage. What about that is attractive. They are totally self fueled and driven and this is appealing?
Hang in there Ahoy.
Me 47 - W 35 M 9 - T 10 2 Daughters - 7 & 9 Discovery of EA- 8/4/14 S - 8/5/15 D mentioned - 9/11/14 R & Piecing - 3/17/15 Regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3
