I'm not totally up to date on your sitch but to me that text comes off as pursuing. I personally wouldn't send it. But I'm sure others will chime in with their thoughts.
I think others would agree. I was feeling silly earlier. I was alone all afternoon, then I heard some corny sad song about a breakup and felt like pursuing.
She invited me to the gym and to the grocery today. Im not mind reading in a hopeful way (like "maybe she wants to R!") but I do find myself believing she is doing this to try to remain friends, or at least friendly. I'm not going to tell her this, but I will always be friendly with her, regardless of what happens. Give time, I could get there after a D. I think it would be good for D2. But for now I don't want to reassure that, and I know that is one of WAW's biggest fears, that we will end up like her parents (unable to even speak to each other). I just don't want to reassure any move towards BigD
Me 38, WAW 30 D11 (former marriage) S2 T 8 years M 3 years BD 8/20/23 S 8/20/23
So WAW just told me I looked good at the gym today. Trying not to mind read either way, but that made my heart flutter. For now I'll just enjoy the first "loving" compliment she's given me since BD
Me 38, WAW 30 D11 (former marriage) S2 T 8 years M 3 years BD 8/20/23 S 8/20/23
Dude, take it and enjoy the crap out of it. I would kill to be able to spend time with my wife.
Congrats!
Me 47 - W 35 M 9 - T 10 2 Daughters - 7 & 9 Discovery of EA- 8/4/14 S - 8/5/15 D mentioned - 9/11/14 R & Piecing - 3/17/15 Regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3
So WAW just told me I looked good at the gym today. Trying not to mind read either way, but that made my heart flutter. For now I'll just enjoy the first "loving" compliment she's given me since BD
Good for you, Card! Enjoy.
I got a compliment on my appearance from H myself this weekend, first one since BD also. We were dressed for the gala and I told him he looked nice. He said, "You too, I had to match you." He didn't initiate that, but I'll take it anyway.
Had a good day today. Only anxiety is about the house - still lots of showings but no offers. Nothing new about WAW today. She did send a funny text typo:
WAW: Let's talk later about the house
(Later) Me: can you talk? WAW: Yeah for a sex WAW: Sec!!!!! Me: Haha screen shot
Me 38, WAW 30 D11 (former marriage) S2 T 8 years M 3 years BD 8/20/23 S 8/20/23
So there are two major milestones coming up in December. One I think I know how to handle, the other I'm not entirely sure.
#1) WAW turns 30. I don't know how she feels now, but I know she was anxious about that birthday as far back as a year and a half ago. Unless there is some drastic change, I think I should at least acknowledge her bday. I don't plan on a present or even a card. Just a text or a phone call. But what to say? I wish I could tell her that she is more beautiful now than when I met her 10 years ago. And I truly believe that. But that might be inappropriate. Plus, maybe it's dumb to put any emphasis on the significance of the age?
#2) dec 28 will mark 10 years from when we officially started dating. It was our anniversary date before we were M'd. I think I know how to handle this: don't even bring it up.
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Me 38, WAW 30 D11 (former marriage) S2 T 8 years M 3 years BD 8/20/23 S 8/20/23
