I feel a little better. The roller coaster still amazes me. Everytime I get to a happy, stable spot for a few days, while i know I will have a slip up at some point, part of me feels like I will feel happy like that indefinitely. I guess it's because before BD, I was almost always happy. Happy about my job, happy with who I was married to, happy to see D2 everyday.
I'm guessing I won't be off of the roller coaster until after R or well after BigD. The potential rewards of an R'd M are still very, very worth it to me to wait on WAW, who I will keep oblivious to my emotional swings.
Me 38, WAW 30 D11 (former marriage) S2 T 8 years M 3 years BD 8/20/23 S 8/20/23
I know for me every time I'm happy, it means e next dip will be shorter and less intense than the one that came before it, and that my happy periods last just a little bit longer.
You're a bright spot around here, Card. I'm glad I was awake for your big trial. Sending you a hug just because.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
So WAW sent me a selfie tonight. She has her biannual two-day board meeting today and tomorrow, and she is always really nervous about what to wear for it. So it's always kind of been a tradition that she shows me her outfits and gets my opinion (I've never been terribly helpful because I think she looks good in all of them). Anyway, we chatted about it for a while last night, I guess out of habit? She texted me. Anyway, I asked her today if she went with a certain outfit, so she sent me a picture. I was struck by her weight. She has lost like 40 pounds since BD. I've know she's been losing weight, of course, but since I only see her maybe once a week, sometimes the difference is striking. The last 10 pounds she has not wanted to lose. I guess I'm just hoping she is making progress with her depression, but some evidence suggests she hasn't yet. She can't get an appetite to eat, and she is also really struggling to sleep.
Just some detached thoughts and prayers for WAW tonight. I had a great workout and run a little bit ago, so I feel much better than I did earlier today
Me 38, WAW 30 D11 (former marriage) S2 T 8 years M 3 years BD 8/20/23 S 8/20/23
Missing WAW tonight. D2 is sick, vomiting all afternoon. This is the first time she's ever been sick like this before. Wishing I wasn't alone here. Threw up in her bed during her nap, huge mess. Then threw up in my bed while I was cleaning that. Trying to clean while take of her. Googling "2 year old vomiting" since I've never dealt with it before. I do have some pedialyte. She hasn't thrown up in an hour (thank God). And she's super clingy, tender and calm now. We're watching football. She seems to be enjoying it.
I'm feeling a little quesy, too. Hopefully it's just empathy nausea, not be catching something
Me 38, WAW 30 D11 (former marriage) S2 T 8 years M 3 years BD 8/20/23 S 8/20/23
No. My googling said no meds for 2 yr old unless doctor recommended. It's been a couple of hours since last vomit, so I think we're okay. I've been letting her sip water since it started, and now that vomiting has stopped, I'm trying to get her to sip pedialyte. She's not fond of it, though
Weird side note: she throws up exactly like WAW. I've been up many nights with WAW over the years
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Me 38, WAW 30 D11 (former marriage) S2 T 8 years M 3 years BD 8/20/23 S 8/20/23
Ugh. Toddler vomit is no fun but it is a blessing that you get to be the one to comfort her, no?
I'm a "less is more" kind of mama... a half day of vomiting is not urgent, at least not pedialyte-level urgent... so if she doesn't want it, I wouldn't push it. Small sips of water is perfect. And some food when she's interested. My doc said yogurt was good in these situations, but I know that's not the typical post-throw up diet. 180's...?
Hang in there! Our nanny used to keep a bib on my D when she was sick!
This incident brings back some God-awful memory for me.
The very last time I threw up was when I was 5. At that time, i was in a cool bath to cool off my temp and then all of sudden vomit came up without any warning. Splash!!! Sweet...NOT...I was sitting in a bathtub water filled with yucky vomit floating around my little naked body. My poor parents...seeing that crime scene and cleaning THAT up.
