Its at least heartening to know that we all have similar emotions. I know how you're feeling far better than I ever would have wished to.
Do me a favour if you don't mind - try and describe what a happy edz looks like without reference your relationship or your W. What does he do? how does he act or react? What does he like about himself? What is he passionate about?
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
Thanks.apart from my s I'm still cooking myself right now. Reading. Movies. Music. All huge things in my life but they're now so enmeshed in times in my life I with w I find I can't watch/listen to them anymore dropped over 80% of my media collection off the play list as I couldn't bear the tracks coming on. I still enjoy a nice meal fine wine or good coffee but happy? I don't know yet. Still working on it.
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015
Its easier asked than answered. But then that's an element of codependency in there
So will a happy confident edz go to the cinema or out for dinner by himself? Is it the food or the company?
Music really affects my mood so I'm having to adjust my playlist as well. But this also works positively by finding songs that make me feel better and more positive
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
Yup have been to the cinema twice dinner about 4 times alone 6 or so with son.
No worries eating alone at restaurants just take my kindle or a book.
I absolutely know I was codependant I know the danger signs now counselling was what I needed there I can't put that to use right now though unless I get into a new r or w comes back.
Not so much I now need w to function it's more I don't like lots of people in my circle as I find dealing with lots of people borderline painful being a serious introvert. Therefore those in my life take on much more importance and my w is my best friend intellectually as well as emotionally and of course there's the physical.
As I said I'm a work in progress. I'm also stuck at the moment can't move yet until the tons of paperwork for rentals are done and it's vacant in December.
Christmas is also ramping up here and all you see is happy families and all I can think is why can't I have that?
Last edited by edz; 10/26/1402:36 PM.
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015
I'm not looking forward to Christmas as it will be W turn to have them. I suspect I'll be a wreck Christmas eve. Doesn't help that its everywhere already.
Everyone is a work in progress. The day we stop trying to grow is the day we stop trying to live.
I've not managed cinema yet so your doing better than me.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
Engaged Aug 2009 Fiancé had doubts Jan 2010 Happily re-engaged July 2012 Discovery of affair July 2014 Separated July 2014 Fiancé is confused about whom to choose Chose the OW Oct 2014
Shame mate im down in bournemouth i'd have treated you to a (small) popcorn if you were nearer mate
No mint poppets though you're on your own there!
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015
Well started the fun task of books and dvd shelves being split today, thought it would be cathartic. Was to a degree but cant say its a lot of fun!
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015
