ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
Thank you, Mr Bond, for this elaborate response (again with the Russian accent). So far my thread hasn't grabbed the attention of a vet. If I can entice you over there I'd like to explore this issue with you further. Don't want to hijack Little's thread with more questions if this isn't an area that she's working on!
H 37 Me 36 Together 15 years Married 5 years No kids BD Apr 2014 H moved out 2 Jun 2014
ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
Such a $&@?! day! Weather [censored], several minor emergencies stressing me out.
I will survive!
ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
Ah, New England weather. I remember it well (lived in Boston for 7 years). You know what they say...just wait a few minutes. Twain, wasn't it? Was he also going through a separation at the time?
What are you doing by way of GAL? Might help with the stress.
Last edited by ganb8te; 10/23/1409:57 PM.
H 37 Me 36 Together 15 years Married 5 years No kids BD Apr 2014 H moved out 2 Jun 2014
Lots of hanging out with friends; dinner, events, day trips, seasonal autumn activities. I'm a homebody so it's a 180 as well.
Last night I went to a Diwali celebration!
ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
Hi Little, Great response to the texts. Funny I see our situations as so similar. My H could have written those texts... keeping in touch because of random items he finds of mine is his favorite reason.
You did great!
Regarding his false reasons for the break up and your anger, I think Mr Bond answered it perfectly (of course). But I just want to chime in and say I definitely have the same experiences, as I know many of us do. And I'd like to add that my WAH is now forgetting the reasons he gave for leaving. He even tells me the opposite things now. So if you can, try not to think about it too much. My H was fishing for reasons when the true main reason was his exciting attraction to OW.
I still get angry about those things he said but if you know they aren't true, just try to stop the thought with something like "he's in a crazy fog"...
I love the advice from Mr Bond. I'll have to practice some of those tips!
No communication in a few days, but it's okay. I don't want to communicate with him right now. I'm just in a place that if he wants me, he knows where to find me.
Got out to the pumpkin patch with my family today, the weather was beautiful. I'm chilling in my (new) bedroom after sprucing it up to my liking. Candles lit, music going, some incense. It's neat and uncluttered and I need not deal with anyone else's clutter or crap here.
It's almost like the longer I'm out, the more I realize I don't have to deal with the crap that used to drive me nuts. Hahah.
ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
"It's almost like the longer I'm out, the more I realize I don't have to deal with the crap that used to drive me nuts. Hahah."
I know what you mean. There are days though that I'd gladly deal with the crap. I'm working hard to see past the stuff that irritates me and see the beautifully flawed person that I'm still madly in love with.
On the flip side, I have candles burning in my room too,
Me 47 - W 35 M 9 - T 10 2 Daughters - 7 & 9 Discovery of EA- 8/4/14 S - 8/5/15 D mentioned - 9/11/14 R & Piecing - 3/17/15 Regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3
You got it, Jefe. I'll call it the "silver lining" to the sitch I don't want to be in. LOL
ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
