1. Avoided conflict. ...which caused us to not solve issues 2. Did not make US a priority. 3. took for granted that we would be together no matter what 4. Put my needs aside which built up inside 5. Communication is poor
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Last night's beer fest was fun. Started at 5 pm and I was crashed by 930 pm. Didn't get much sleep the day before. Had a room w my buddy and his fiance. Wide awake at 5 am so I drove home (hour away) I told the wife last night that I was staying the night......This morning she was pretty upset about it. Doesn't really matter I guess. I'm in a really blah mood today....borderline depressed. Surprisingly no hang over though. Went grocery shopping, put lawn furniture away for winter and cleaned out the shed.
We plan on carving pumpkins later.
Slowly going insane inside
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Way to go Lostluv. You did a good job following thru and going to the Beer fest. Be "mysterious", say nothing to W about what you did last night. Her assumptions may cause her some distress, but that's not your problem. Have fun pumpkin carving.
1. Avoided conflict. ...which caused us to not solve issues 2. Did not make US a priority. 3. took for granted that we would be together no matter what 4. Put my needs aside which built up inside 5. Communication is poor
1 - You're still doing this in a way 2 - Then make sure you make family a priority starting today. 3 - Dig deeper, this one is not really about what you contributed 4 - #2 and #4 seem to be in conflict with each other. Explain a little better. 5 - What can you do to make this better today?
Me 47 - W 35 M 9 - T 10 2 Daughters - 7 & 9 Discovery of EA- 8/4/14 S - 8/5/15 D mentioned - 9/11/14 R & Piecing - 3/17/15 Regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3
1. I'm just not talking about the relationship or feelings. But true...isn't the last thing we need right now is conflict? She doesn't want to solve anything at the moment. 2. I mean my wife and I did not make US a priority by doing regular dating 3? 4. I gave up doing things with friends to spend all of my time remodeling, doing work around house. If we both wanted to plan something on a specific day, I almost always gave in and did what she wanted 5. Trying now, but we really don't talk about ANY THING right now. Just small talk. No way to work on it really unless we are talking? I'm trying to let her initiate
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Today is surprisingly calm. My wife cooked like crazy for a few hours. Home made chicken soup, beef stroganoff, chicken pot pie muffins. Left a mess in the kitchen. ....I cleaned up. I try to clean up when she cooks a dinner. Figure she puts the work into the meal, won't hurt me to do the cleaning. I have been doing it more the past couple months .besides....helps me keep busy.
This week I will not be able to leave work early to take my daughter to day care. My wife will have to do it as she used to. I've been doing it since July. I originally started doing it to help my wife, but realize I do it more for me now......so I can see my daughter more and be the first reason she smiles each morning.
I need to plan some more GAL activities. Last night's was a blast. However. ....I was a bit confused on how I should act when other women showed interest. We socialized w some mixed groups of strangers. I was pleasant and confident but I tried to talk more to the men because I felt very guilty talking to women when they seemed very interested in my status.
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That's a decision you have to make for yourself. If you you are willing to accept the advances then you can't really complain about your wife.
I am not interested in any other women. But I'm not suggesting a particular path for you.
Me 47 - W 35 M 9 - T 10 2 Daughters - 7 & 9 Discovery of EA- 8/4/14 S - 8/5/15 D mentioned - 9/11/14 R & Piecing - 3/17/15 Regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3
I guess it's normal. We're human. But if you allow the advances and are not interested, that's game playing. I'm not saying that you have or would, just that in my mind it's inappropriate.
Me 47 - W 35 M 9 - T 10 2 Daughters - 7 & 9 Discovery of EA- 8/4/14 S - 8/5/15 D mentioned - 9/11/14 R & Piecing - 3/17/15 Regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3
