It's 3:53 AM here. Just laid out my clothes for tomorrow. I stink of nervous sweat. My mind is clear, but I know not what I will do next. Will def pray.
Me: 43 XW: 43 T15 M14 D21, SS15, S11, D8 BD: 8/6 EA / possible PA discovered 9/29 D final 10/20
MrBond, I agree with you 100%. Except, you know, for building a better marriage in the first place. She snuck off with him 7/19 somewhere. Constant texting and pics (nothing racy.) One of the texts is directly linked to "activity."
I can control some things from here forward, even if it means getting ridiculous (which I don't intend to do.) I don't have to sign the existing divorce decree, that's for sure.
I won't be walked on. She needs to come clean. I will see where it leads from there.
Me: 43 XW: 43 T15 M14 D21, SS15, S11, D8 BD: 8/6 EA / possible PA discovered 9/29 D final 10/20
Oh, well, I'm in frenetic mode. Sorry for the frequent posts. Talking myself off the ledge, so to speak.
Connecting the dots was interesting. Couldn't have done it if she hadn't told on herself about this guy in April or so. "Someone I used to know...trying to make more friends in the area..." Pulling deleted data off an iPhone is tricky, but not too hard.
I need to catch a few winks. Gotta get busy tomorrow.
Me: 43 XW: 43 T15 M14 D21, SS15, S11, D8 BD: 8/6 EA / possible PA discovered 9/29 D final 10/20
I'm fine. Now the suddenness of her BD and relative failure of DB (even when I was doing it better a month ago) makes sense...in the short term, anyway. Deciding my next move. Intend to confront, let her know if she comes clean we can keep things moving (or try to reconnect!, which is what I really want) civilly, but there's about to be a new sheriff in town. My kids are NOT going to be raised by another man. F that.
I'm certainly detached now.
I kid you not, a gym owner. Classic.
Reacting out of anger isn't detachment, it's even deeper and more harmful emotional investment.
Who is the man you want to be through this and does discovering an EA/PA change that?
Last edited by labug; 09/30/1401:32 PM.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
