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Originally Posted By: igit
As Pilot would say Hah!


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Me: 42
W: 32
Married 7 years together 8.5
S1: 7 S2:7
Bomb #1: 09-16-13
Recon #1: 11/13
A discovered 04-03-2014
W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me
I filed D 12-02-2014
S 05-31-14
Divorced 5-19-16
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Already in hell. Praying for you! Right there with you. We still live together separate rooms, friendly when son is up then go to our separate corners after we put him to bed. Not sure which way is easier S gone or in the house. I think they both su<k. Hard for me to go dark.

Stay strong


Me: 55, W: 46
T: 17 M: 15
S: 10
3 S prev M
25 23 21
Unhappy 10/12
Asked to move out 1/14
NILWY 2/14
Sep rooms: 1/14
BD 3/14
W filed 5/14
Trial 12/14


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I went dark, but not by choice. My WW has pretty much given me the silent treatment since she left. I haven't communicated with her at all since she filed for D. Not sure how I can possibly turn this around. She never gave me a chance. Just up and leaves one day without ever lifting a finger to work on our M.


M 16 T 17
W moved in w/ AP (OW) 5/14
ILYBNIL 5/14
A discovered 6/14
D papers served via USPS 8/14
Filed my response 9/14
D final 5/15...
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Do you know what made her unhappy? Why she checked out so quickly?


Me: 55, W: 46
T: 17 M: 15
S: 10
3 S prev M
25 23 21
Unhappy 10/12
Asked to move out 1/14
NILWY 2/14
Sep rooms: 1/14
BD 3/14
W filed 5/14
Trial 12/14


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Nope. I thought everything was fine and dandy. I mean, she's having an affair, so that's why she left, but as far as what led her to seek fulfillment outside of the M, I don't know, because she never said anything. I would have worked with her on absolutely anything.


M 16 T 17
W moved in w/ AP (OW) 5/14
ILYBNIL 5/14
A discovered 6/14
D papers served via USPS 8/14
Filed my response 9/14
D final 5/15...
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Have you looked at yourself and where you may have fell short in your M. That's a good place start and work on yourself. How long have you been m. I know it's an awfully lonely feeling. Been there for last 8 months. You have to be positive when you see her no matter the circumstances. D talk or court or whatever. Let her see the best of you. Hang tuff


M 54
W 48
T 19
M 17
D 12
Twin S 6
Twin S 6
Ilybnilwy 1/26/14
A discovered 2/3/14
D filed 7/25/14
Sumons served 8/14/14

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Sorry for hijacking, igit. smile


M 16 T 17
W moved in w/ AP (OW) 5/14
ILYBNIL 5/14
A discovered 6/14
D papers served via USPS 8/14
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D final 5/15...
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Yeah, I know I failed in the areas of conversation and affectionate words. Kinda hard to show changes in those areas without communication, though. smile Been married going on 16 years.


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W moved in w/ AP (OW) 5/14
ILYBNIL 5/14
A discovered 6/14
D papers served via USPS 8/14
Filed my response 9/14
D final 5/15...
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No worries. 8 do it all the time. That's what where here for we are all in similar situation s and it's nice to have some freinds out there to listen


M 54
W 48
T 19
M 17
D 12
Twin S 6
Twin S 6
Ilybnilwy 1/26/14
A discovered 2/3/14
D filed 7/25/14
Sumons served 8/14/14

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Well, I hope we all are able to reconcile with our wives. smile


M 16 T 17
W moved in w/ AP (OW) 5/14
ILYBNIL 5/14
A discovered 6/14
D papers served via USPS 8/14
Filed my response 9/14
D final 5/15...
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