Maybell the VIIIth

[Maybell]

Sam, it sounds like your sitch is moving. I'm keeping an eye on you too.

Thanks for stopping by and have a good weekend.

[Maybell]

BTW Sam, the one book that totally helped me start to change things with my D is Parenting Without Power Struggles. It's like a DB companion in that it breaks down a lot of what we learn here, forces you to examine your assumptions and attitudes, and teaches you to reframe your expectations so you can interact more lovingly and successfully with your kids. When I think about it, it would make a great piecing handbook.

Good luck with your D. I always say that God knew what he was doing when he gave me just one girl.

[labug]

So I let the emotion pass about this "surprise" baby BS and want to say, sex causes babies, practicing responsible birth control can prevent approx 98% of pregnancies. The only thing that's 100% (non-surgical) is abstinence.

Birth control is not just the woman's responsibility. If a man doesn't want to have another baby there are ways to make that happen.

So don't take any more responsibility for their lack of knowledge about the human reproductive system, or birth control or sex.

Asking that question of me more than once would be a deal breaker, I think.

[Maybell]

In our case he was attempting to be responsible. The details are too personal for me to say more...

[labug]

You don't have to say more.

This is a hot button issue for me because birth control usually falls 100% to the woman.

[Maybell]

My H has been very stand up about that issue. But I do wish that he'd stuck with the "if it happens I'll be ok with it" position.

Ah, well. We weren't complete before S6. He adds laughter (and a lot of testosterone!) to the family.

[labug]

The only thing we can be sure about is, we can't be sure about anything.

Ah, well. We weren't complete before S6. He adds laughter (and a lot of testosterone!) to the family.

Beautiful!

[labug]

I don't want to hijack your thread with this. If people feel the need to respond to what I've written, I have a thread.

Back to you, Maybell.

[Maybell]

Interesting perspective re: H dating from my very good friend today.

I told her my anxiety and she said "Why would you object? I can't see how you could lose."

She pointed out the grass is NEVER greener and H as he is isn't the most appealing prospect out there for any woman. He might actually get a date but it won't play out in anything like a good way. So I should not object.

Well, when you put it that way...

I'm so fortunate to get so much good advice.

[KGirl]

...but then are you going to be OK with knowing you were the fall-back after he checked out everyone else? What would it take to know you are really his first choice and not the "no one else wanted me so guess I'll go back to Maybell?" I've been struggling with this concept lately and curious to know what you/others think.