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Good feedback, Wonka. My goal here is to make amends and to let her go. I feel like asking for anything will only infuriate her.


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I just looked up "Making a Heartfelt Amends" and the first post suggests to do this in person. Should I be asking for that?


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Now is not the time for an in-person heartfelt amends. Give her time. More time. Lots more time.


M: 37 H: 36
M: 13 T: 18
D: 7
Bomb: 6/30/14
Separation: 8/11/14

Be strong enough to let go and wise enough to wait for what you deserve.
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Sigh...

I just want to go back in time, get my [censored] together. Learn to love myself. Avoid making these pathetic mistakes. Marry this woman and make beautiful babies.

Is there a thread for that on here?

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DB,

I know you're feeling down and a bit drained. It shall pass soon.

Right now, you are not in a position to make any comments or moves in person with her. She is still feeling too emotionally raw and does not wish to see you (yet). Allow her the space to process and walk on her own healing journey.

Breathe.

Get out and GAL. It'll be a good distraction for you.

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Giants game tonight for my birthday with two buddies. Looking forward to it. smile

This weekend is heads down work for my MBA program. I have finals on Friday/Sat. I'm going to try to squeeze a hike in, as well.

Thanks, Wonk.

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I keep trying to "like" comments on here. Such a child of the Facebook generation.


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Happy Birthday! Enjoy the Giants game...I think they s*ck! I am a big Pats fan. grin

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I keep trying to "like" comments on here. Such a child of the Facebook generation.


Me: 39 - W: 35
Together: 2 years, no kids
My Affair: 1.5 years
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Happy birthday! And seriously giants game?! Cubs game at Wrigley field is the only way to go :-)


Me: 35 husband:39
Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage
Twins 5 (boy/girl)
Daughter 3
Affair bomb 2/27/14
He moved in with ow 3/13/14
OW kicked him out 6/15/14
4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction



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