wife having an emotional affair

[3kids]

Been reading a ton lately and wow a lot of clarity. My wife I believe is a Mcl into a waw. Some days are better then others. Always looking for more clarity on her actions. The reason I posted about her not calling the kids is because that is really not the norm for her. She would always call to talk to them. Maybe the OM is in town. I don't know but still she has always called.

[sandi2]

The reason I posted about her not calling the kids is because that is really not the norm for her. She would always call to talk to them.

Having a MLC or being a WAW is not the norm for her either. You would probably be safe in thinking very few times will be normal, where she's concerned.

Expect the unexpected! Otherwise, you will constantly be caught off guard.

[Bob1967]

Talk it out. What is wrong with you?

Not being sarcastic.

What is it you want from her? You obviously were expecting something and she didn't give it to you.

Don't give me some bull*t answer it's about the kids because its not. If you didn't have an expectation from her you wouldn't notice she hasn't called.

You expected something and she didn't give it to you. What did you expect. Why did you expect it?

Or are you jealous? Jealous is okay. Just own it.

[3kids]

Wouldn't that be great if you could just talk with your wife about why they acting so crazy! And then get the truth of what's going on!

[u-turn]

When I tried talking to my W early on (before DB) she said she could not explain what's going on. She couldn't explain or justify her feelings. She couldn't understand how she could let this happen.

The fog is thick. Waiting and not expecting anything is very difficult.

[3kids]

Patience patience patience! I know long journey not a sprint! Thank you Uturn! Talking does nothing right now except push them further away.

[CaliGuy]

I have noticed that same thing, talking presses them into a stressful place, one they do not want to be in. My W told me she was confused and didnt know what she wanted, she even wondered if it was a MLC ... looking at all the things she has done, so not her I would not be suprised if it was ... regardless its so hard to be patient and not press when you see someone you care deeply for in trouble, all we can do is be the rock/positive place and just wait out the storm I suppose.

[3kids]

Well we will see if this blows up in my face! I was so close to her family that every now and then they invite me to do stuff. Well the oldest says he hasn't seen her BIL and sister in over a month. Not a shock it's was only her best friend when we where together( distance from family). So I sent out an email to her asking if they wanted to have dinner tonight with me and the kids. She's asking her husband. Maybe I can gain a friend ship that I thought I lost through all of this.

[3kids]

Holy cr$p, called me! But it was of course mostly about her. She's all stressed out because she has school starting tomorrow and nothing is done for it. Then she wanted me to save money on the oldest physical since we have no insurance. But I told her no matter what it has to get done. Conversation stayed at me just being calm and caring and just being a friend. I insured her that I would take care if the oldest.

She tried to take the conversation to talking about the divorce but I stayed away from it. She owes her dad money and wants to give him a fourwheeler to pay him off. I just said let's not worry about that right now and focus on the kids and insurance problems. Hope that was right to do!

Did a few validating questions. Got answers back "like you care" and "I want depression pills".

[3kids]

Caliguy I know exactly what your talking about. On a rare occasion mine has shown signs of her old self. I think what we have to realize is that they are not totally the same person.