Ok, took some deep breaths and got out some good sobs. Re-reading his msg it's clear he still has a lot of anxiety about everything, including how I will react to things like this. Man, I have been pretty cool with regards to almost everything since mid-February. His SIL, his mother, his friends have ALL remarked on how I've changed. He just really doesn't believe that change is possible. That is so sad...for him, mostly.
So, my reply will be a 180. How's something like this:
"Congrats! That is great news and I'm very happy for you. Whatever schedule changes this brings, I'm sure we will figure it out. As for the date you requested to switch, I already have plans that night, but I can reach out to a babysitter to help out."
I know this birthday has brought its share of heartache with a tremendous amount of growth. I'm with Maybell, toasting you with a glass of Prosecco, even if I am a day overdue.
It's an emotional time, to be sure.
Is there anything positive you can glean from your H's announcement?
Just wondering...
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Me 54 Him 63 M 23 T 29 0 Kids Funny Farm of Rescues 12/12 OW-- 5/13 ILYBINILWY: A denied 9/13 Proof OW: ENDED 2/14 Got D papers on my BD I kicked him out for my sanity 9/14 He wants to "talk"?
I know that my H was feeling down for a long time that he hadn't been promoted, and he's been passed over for a couple of opportunities. He left me 9 months ago, and even before then he was talking about wanting to move to a new position with better opportunities within the company, and being frustrated that he couldn't find that. So, this is a great accomplishment for him and I'm sure will help with his mindset.
I'm impressed by your ability to revisit. I like the email you have in mind. But maybe wait a bit till you get feedback from a vet? Not for any reason other than one more pair of eyes.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
I hear you, Maybell. (Vets, where have you been?!!?)
Part of me wants to respond quickly, if only to show him that I can have a positive, detached, rational, solution-oriented (not selfish, negative, panicked) response RIGHT AWAY. That bodes well for a future R, right? Like, THIS IS ME, quickly. Not after several days of mulling it over.
He doesn't have to know that I spent the last hour crying my eyes out and begging for advice from strangers on the internet. Unless he finds this.
So, my reply will be a 180. How's something like this:
"Congrats! That is great news and I'm very happy for you. Whatever schedule changes this brings, I'm sure we will figure it out. As for the date you requested to switch, I already have plans that night, but I can reach out to a babysitter to help out."
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Claire, I'm not a vet but I would keep it short and sweet and take out the part about finding a sitter to help out. IMHO, This is something he needs to handle himself not for you to do for him. After all, he decided to leave so he's should deal with the issues that come up. Hope that helps
Me 34 M 2.5 (Both 2nd M) My kids-D 17,S 16,S 12 BD 2/14 D final 7/2014
