M 35 W 31 D 10 Married 3 years Together 11 Single since Nov 13 Moved out Dec 13 ILYBNILWY, 'I don't want to be a boring housewife, 'I don't fancy you any more' OM confirmed Jun 14
Just wanted to stop in and say good luck to you, but please don't do it!
I was in a sort of similar spot a couple of years ago, where I could have (and really wanted to!) expose the OW and hurt her like she and my H had just hurt me. I had just found out, and I felt so betrayed, so angry and completely powerless to do one single thing to feel better. I wanted so badly to wring this woman's neck and tell her boyfriend of 2 decades long what she and my H were doing, because he had no idea, and I just knew it would make me feel better. But I didn't do it. To this day, he probably still doesn't know. But it doesn't matter to me now. Anyway, my H left that sitch a day later and came back, so justice was at least somewhat served....
Ultimately, weeks or months later when all of this has simmered on the emotional scale somewhat, you'll be very glad you didn't.
Besides, it's a rare occasion when anyone does what someone tells them to do. They usually will do the exact opposite. Trust everyone here, and just leave it alone. Maybe it won't happen right now, but there will come a day when you will realize that it wouldn't have helped your cause at all to post your feelings or push for anyone to do X. And you'll be able to say you acted with complete class. And if your rel'p is ever going to be saved, not doing that will only help!
Just post your anger and vent here....this is where you'll find solid compassion from people who have been there.
