Like a moth to flame

[Ben2010]

I half expected a text from my W on Father's Day but didnt get one. It kind of hurt a bit. I have a son who is 12 but she has known him for the last 10 years. I would agree though Thornton, dont overreact now. Youre on a good path, let her go at her pace and Im sure this will turn out well for you. Im pulling for you!

[MrBond]

"Do I continue to let her reach out to me? Is there ever a point where I initiate something with her?"

What have you been doing during this time of separation? Are the two of you friends on FB?

[Thornton]

Hi Bond,

I've been doing lots of reading, therapy, spending time with my daughter.

We are still friends on FB, in fact she still lists me as her partner. I don't check her page anymore but I can tell she hasn't changed her relationship status because it's still on my profile.

She also hasn't picked up her and her daughters things from my house. It's so confusing. I try not to mind read but sometimes it gets the best of me.

Thoughts?

[Ben2010]

Same thing for me Thorn. W has left everything she owns at my place and has not even come to get any of it. She took a weeks worth of clothing and some makeup. I am also unsure what to make of this.

[KdogGS]

Interesting new development, sounds like you handled it well right up until the "I understand." Wonka gave you a much better option for next time.

If in doubt, stay dark. Keep doing what you're doing, you've seen a couple positive results with her reaching out to you.

[Thornton]

Thanks Ben and Kdog.

I know I need to stay patient, this DB'ing stuff is not for the faint hearted!

I will continue to stay quiet. No pursuit.

[Maybell]

I've been quiet but watching your thread and echo -- stay patient. And wish you all the best.

[Thornton]

Thanks, Maybell. I hope you are hanging in there.

[Maybell]

You know, all things considered, I'm pretty good!!* Thanks!

(*standard caveat applies)

[Thornton]

I doing my best to drop the rope. I struggle between hanging on to hope and accepting things as they are.

Hope equals pain, at least for me. I think the hardest part is that WAW clearly isn't finished with our relationship. It would almost be easier for me if she just ripped the Band-Aid off and told me with 100% certainty that she doesn't love me anymore.

I'm feeling emotionally exhausted. I stay active in the gym and reading lots of things on relationships, codependency, and healing. But my heart still hurts. I hate feeling like this.